Spells of feeling so overwhelmed, am I alone?

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I have a one year old and a three and a half year old, both adorable and no special circumstances etc, they're good kids but I am finding everything such hard work. It feels like every day is an uphill battle and every now and then I seem to slip into a week or feeling so hopeless then wait to come out of the other side.

My husband is a good dad, hands on and helpful although can be critical of me (he knows this and tries not to be) but I feel like pretty much everything falls on me and im so overwhelmed. Spent the night awake holding my baby as he's got a cough and catching sick in a bowl to then start throwing up myself at 4am so I'm probably tired and feeling sorry for myself but I'm starting to wonder why I bothered having kids. There are amazing moments and joyful times but on the whole it's just hard work, zero time to myself and a feeling that if I slack off for a day I'll be catching up all week. I work three days a week and am considering four despite the childcare costs meaning this won't give me any extra money. Just to be somewhere where I'm more than just a slave.

Sorry this sounds so pitiful but I'm just fed up this morning.

You at not alone and you are not helpless , we are allowed to have a good whinge, us mums listen to enough of it.

I have a boy coming up 2 and a 7 month old and I am a full time mum.. it can be so hard and so challenging from the moment you wake to the moment you go to bed.

So you have a good routine through the day? Get out with the kids much?

It can be very mundane, but on the plus side you have a release at work and adult conversation.. I'm presuming?

Does your partner take over when he is at home? Help when kids are ill?

Thanks for the response. Husband takes over as much as he can, although that is usually for me to go and hang up washing and such rather than relax...
Routine is out of the window in the day at the moment, he's just started nursery and was having two naps, now it can be one sometimes, thinking about it, this is probably something I could work on. Likewise I have both with me now and no days just me and bub, so I used to get stuff done during naps whereas now I'm with my little girl as I feel bad leaving her on her own with paw patrol. Bedtime is ok but we've had a cough, teething and various other things so maybe once we're clear I need to sort it out a bit. I'm still bf and want to stop, then his dad can do bed.
Reading this makes me think actually it's not so hopeless,thanks so much. Feels like we're in the trenches sometimes hey? Hope you have a good day.

I don't think we give ourselves enough credit sometimes and try to be perfect.. I mean what even is perfect.

My baby is also teething and had multiple colds over the past few months.. my little boy had flu and whilst you do everything you can it does naturally drain you so don't feel bad.

My baby is currently napping and my son watching cbeebies whilst I iron their clothes, we have to do that sometimes.

This weekend was filled with things for him to do such as the park and baking, creative play so I don't feel bad today for having to do the chores.

I seem to spend a lot of time cooking for our family so I let my little boy up on the counter and he helps me.. makes what could be a very mundane job a fun activity for us both (more messy like haha)

I'm probably rambling a bit but want to let you know we have all boarded that same boat and are trying to keep afloat

I could have written this last year. I found having a one year old and a three year old so hard. I don't have a job but I seriously considered going back to work just to get a break from, as you say, being a slave. It felt relentless and I couldn't see it ever ending. Now I have a 2 and a 4 year old it is so much better. They play together so nicely which gives me a break to get things done around the house and even read a book, write which I love doing or browse mums net on occasion! I do lots with them but I don't feel guilty if I let them amuse themselves a bit. This was much harder to do a year ago as they needed me more it felt like I never got a break. Hang in there

Thank you for your replies. I think I know really that it will get easier, just hard sometimes as it's one thing after another!! I think nobody really understands until they've been there and even then I think you forget (otherwise who would have any more ) hopefully spring will be here soon and we will settle into a better routine.

It will get better soon hun, keep your chin up and know you are doing your best.. even if you don't think it's good enough it really is. Your babies love you and have a strong mamma