My dds (age 6 and 7) have been invited to a sleepover tonight for a friends birthday. The friend is the dd of pur friends, is in dd1's class and I would have said until today was dd1's best friend. We have RSVPed that they would go.
My dds have just explained that 5 kids are going earlier in the day to do activities and that they aren't invited for, and my two and one other girl are just invited to the sleepover afterwards. Dd2 doesn't want to go, which I've told her is fine, but dd1 does, although she is being quite quiet about it which normal means she is a bit upset.
I am a bit unhappy about it - it just seems mean to exclude a few kids but then have them go afterwards? We also have the birthday girl quite regularly as childcare while her parents work, although I suppose that isn't relevant, I just feel a bit let down that my friends would place my dc in an upsetting position.
My polite side wants to just make an excuse for why dd2 doesn't want to go, but on the other hand I think she is not unreasonable to not want to go to the b-list party.
Also, there's a petty side of me that wants to stop doing childcare for them too!