Help please

[OnlyYellowRoses]

Apologies as have posted in other topics but I'm at my wits end!!

Hello please. DD is nearly two and most evenings she has her bath/story/warm milk and goes down (self settles) in her cot with her music playing within 15 mins of me putting her to bed. Bedtime is between 7.30 and 8.30 depending how tired she seems. So at first she's an angel with going to bed.

Unfortunately she then wakes about 1-2am and will not go back to sleep! She shrieks and screams blue murder. I do the super nanny thing of keeping lights low and not speaking to her, give her back her dummy and cloth and lie her back down but she just immediately stands up and screams the house down.

Im try not to give her milk in the night anymore, most of the time she won't drink it anyway just plays with it. She's wide awake when she does wakes, I've tried sitting with her, ignoring her and rapid return. She's not unwell and she has all her teeth now.

I spent last night sitting on the sofa watching Peppa Pig as she dozed. Every time I put her back into her cot she screamed again. I don't normally remove her from the bedroom but I just couldn't handle the screeching last night.

Ideas or help please?

Well at that stage and this will probably be unhelpful... I brought them into bed. I couldn’t tolerate that to be honest. My sleep is so precious I couldn’t sit there looking at Peppa Pig

It's probably best to just post in one section OP

There is a sleep regression at this age. I remember my own dd who self settled as soon as she was born all of a sudden would scream blue murder when put in the cot , she was about 22/23 months.
I ended up lying down next to her cot at bedtime, at first she would take ages to fall asleep and as the days went on she just went to sleep as normal.

Put her in a big bed at 2 and that helped .

I've co-slept with all of mine and it seems to help avoiding these regressions. Sometimes they just miss you and feel lonely

She's still in my room with me at the moment. I haven't attempted a toddler bed yet.

I don't really want her in my bed but she won't do it anyway when I have tried, just gets more angry at me 😔

Offer water.
Could she be hungry?
I do agree with pp about sleep regression.
Does she have a pillow and duvet or in a sleep sack?
Is she warm enough?
Maybe it's time for the cot to be made into a bed.
Failing that I'd make the areas she can access are safe and let her play if she wants or come into my bed. I couldn't keep up with that sort of (no) sleep routine for long!

She has a pillow and duvet and sleeps in a baby grow or pyjamas. I've tried water but she won't take it. I could put her in a toddler bed but she'll just keep getting out I think

I've just read she shares your room, could you be disturbing her do you think? Could you set up a sleep tracker to record you to see if maybe you fall into a deep sleep around that time and snore etc?

That's a good idea actually! I'll give that a go 👍

Right, downloaded a sleep talking app and it picked up that I had a coughing fit in my sleep at 1 and 3am which is when she stirred. Also at 5.30 I started snoring pretty loud and she woke up shortly after! So it seems it's actually me disturbing her by the looks of it.
Time to put her in her own room I think!!

Brilliant glad you've found what may be happening! Good luck on the move

Boom!! So glad my suggestion helped. When I moved house I had to share rooms with my lo and it was a nightmare, we'd just constantly disturb each other. Hope you get sorted and sleeeeeeep 😁