So my daughter came home from my ex MIL house yesterday, she was there whilst her dad was at work, her clothes and hair smelt of cigarette smoke. This is not the first time it has happened. I told her dad how annoyed I was about this, he is fully aware no one is to smoke inside around her, and he got on the defensive straight away telling me I was causing problems and that his mum was on the way round to confront me.
She is four and a half and doesn’t understand the concept of lying really yet, so when I asked her about the smoking she admitted ‘Nanny smokes in the kitchen’. I even clarified by showing her a packet of cigarettes and asked her who has these. My mum smokes and so does her dads new gf, she stated they both smoke in the garden but today Nanny smoked in the kitchen. It baffles me how in this age now we know all the damage second hand smoke does how anyone could still smoke around a child!
Anyway sorry for the rambling, but basically what are my rights? I do no want her to be there when she is smoking around my daughter and lying about it. I know that if I tell her dad not to leave her there when he’s not around he’ll ignore it because he’s so out headed he believes she isn’t smoking inside. So I almost don’t want her to be with her dad either, but I know that’s not right. What can I do???