We did baby-led weaning with my daughter (1) and she's pretty much always been a very good eater. She eats whatever we have - mostly with her fingers but she's just starting to get the hang of preloaded spoons. She is quite a slow eater - sometimes I have to convince her to get going with some fruit or something and then she'll eat everything, but it can take a while. However, she's not picky at all and very rarely rejects anything entirely.
She started nursery a few weeks ago and we've had a few problems. They'd not encountered BLW before and have struggled getting their heads around it. They kept trying to spoonfeed her (which she rejected entirely) and were baffled that she ate all her finger food snacks and fruit but continually rejected her lunch (which is often some kind of casserole or stew - I guess because it's easier to batch cook?). Obviously I'm not there to see what's happening but I suspect that a) they're not giving her food that she can really eat with her fingers or pre-loading her spoon and b) they're not leaving her for long enough to work away.
Am I being unreasonable to ask them to adapt the way they feed / serve her to accommodate BLW? I really don't want to be THAT MUM and I appreciate they have 8 other babies to feed some days, most of whom are spoonfed or old enough to use a spoon themselves without help. Thing is on the days when they've served something chunkier, she's eaten a lot better, so I do think it would make a difference. But equally she's not starving (she eats breakfast, a mid-morning snack, an afternoon snack and we give her dinner when she gets in) and I just don't know if it's out of order of me to expect them to take her eating style into consideration.