DC and Friendships

[Lavenderdays]

I think I may need to be talked down a bit on this one. I am currently experiencing depression and have just made a GP appointment, so perspective is a difficult thing for me.

My dd is bright and started school last year. She was always a challenging toddler but doesn't tick all the boxes for certain conditions. I have been to the GP regarding her but her behaviour since she started school seems to have settled down.

My concern now is her interactions with other children her age. This morning there were a group of girls and they more or less rejected her from their little group (this happens most mornings). She was trying to tell one of the children something and they wouldn't listen, so she started shouting with frustration (to which the child she was trying to speak to covered her ears). I explained to dd that she mustn't shout and to go and find others to play with. And when other girls walked past this group, the children would shout hi x as if inviting them to join in, obviously this made me feel really sad for dd. I think dd and I are a bit like square pegs in round holes at the moment - I have struggled to make any firm friends with any of the mums (probably partly due to my depression) and when I speak to dd it comes across that she hasn't either. DD does extra curricular activities outside of school, so although she doesn't have playdates, she does see other children a lot. She is brilliant with both younger and older children, its just children of her own age I think she struggles a bit with.
The teachers haven't flagged up any issues, when I asked them a couple of months ago, they said that dd didn't have any particular friends and they looked a bit vague. I don't want to get overly involved, as explained, I'm not thinking totally rationally at the moment and trying to keep things in perspective. I obviously want dd to be happy and I'm not saying her behaviour is innocent either, I suppose I'm looking for a bit of reassurance because I don't think much can be done.
Does anyone have a child that is experiencing a similar thing?

I have just read some other threads on here about the same issue and I find it reassuring that many others have experienced this.

So much focus is placed on academic development but you don't get much feedback about their social interactions.
DD can become bossy but usually because she is so caught up with what she is doing. She is happy to go to school, so obviously things are too bad. She never tells me who she plays with but again this seems like a normal thing to do and is great at making up stories about fantasy children who have just started school!

My DS is only in preschool but I worry about the same things as you, even though it isn't always rational.

I think it's partly because I am shy and was bullied/excluded at primary school, so I am terrified of my son experiencing the same thing (and probably over sensitive - every time I watch him interacting with his friends I look for evidence of this).

I spoke to the teachers a few weeks ago and they said he got on well with the other children and was forming new friendships - they do keep an eye out for any children who might be struggling socially and try to support them.