Hi there,
Me and my partner have a new little baby girl and things were delightful though sadly enough, my partners unstable behavior is back ;
Prior to me getting pregnant, my partner has shown me some signs of having Munchausen (factitious disorder) where he pretends to be often sick (when he truly is not ) Examples : facking migranes, always tired when he’s been sleeping 8hrs and often more, nose issue, stomach issues, always so negative etc I think this behavior is due to the fact of his rocky childhood and his great lack of self esteem .
Now you ask why I stook around and had our little one if I knew the red flags ? I did such since the red flags only got worst once I was pregnant.. we have also discussed the issue and he mentioned he would try to change which he actually did though now ever since he has had surgery (eye surgery) we’re back to square one.
He has been exaggerating symptoms and has completely disconnected himself from us and isn’t helping me in any way and it has been like this for more than a week and at this state he should be feeling better. I feel like he is loving the sympathy and is stretching things to the max.
Now I’m scared of leaving our child with him if I have to go for errands when he’s back in that state..
And in the end, I’m also wondering if it’s healthy for us to stay with him if we’ll be living in an unstable and very negative/stressful draining environment ?
I know how important it is for a child’s development to have both parents at its side ..
However I must be honest and say that prior to the surgery he was extremely helpful , he normally is often with our little one , helps out with everything , cooks and cleans for us etc He was great when I gave birth as well.
Though he did create a bit of drama at the hospital since he needed a bit of attention on himself. His mother also offered sending him money for him to get me flowers which he refused (though we were extremely burnt out at that moment).
So all in all, is it a safe and healthy environment to raise a child in ?