Kids and sex talks

[Browneyedgirl6]

I'll start off by saying I am no prude. I'm a big believer in keeping things all in the open for my kids. I've made a conscious effort to not cover myself up all the time around my 6 year old so he can grow up with the subconcious knowledge of what a normal female body looks like rather than the image that will undoubtedly be thrown at him constantly by the media. So he's just gone 6 and I'll still chat to him while I'm in the bath etc.

So I am pretty conscious of getting everything just right. I don't want him to think magic creates a baby or that daddy and mummy high fived and mummy got pregnant. Actually I still remember my older sister teaching me this when I was younger and the utter panic I felt when a teacher high fived me a few days later.

Anyway I'm waffling now. Here's the short of it. When it comes to sex and talking about my child's own body with him I'm utterly out of my depth and feel like any information I give him will be either too much or too little. When I look to Google for advice it tells me I should have been teaching him what a penis and vulva is from aged 2. Well I've royally buggered that one up.

He's 6 and he has noticed his "todger standing up and getting stronger". He's exploring how things feel. All this I can cope with because I just don't make an issue. Until last night. He really likes watching the children's ASMR videos that show slime and teddies and all sorts of nice sounds. It gets him to sleep at night.

Then last night he said "When I listen to that ladies voice it makes my willy tickly".

I literally said nothing and sat there for a good two hours, probably 1hr and 59 minutes longer than it actually took him to fall asleep, planning my genius science based age appropriate answer.

I'm out of my depth.

What age do you teach what and how the hell do I broach this subject?

I'm not proud of this but I completely avoided this aspect of things (not sex talks in general, just this) and left DH to explain that bit. Tbh, anything he had to tell DS's was probably far more useful than what I could have said.

Sorry, I know that's not very helpful.

I definitely think it's harder to teach your child of the opposite sex about the changes that will happen to their bodies. When I done child education a few years ago we were told that the best ways to approach it were to not tell them information until they started asking the questions. So with your son you said he told you that it makes his willy tickly so you just don't respond to that. It's more if he asks why does it make me feel like that when you talk about it because he was the one that started the conversation. There's plenty of children's books that explain in a softer and less detailed way of things like that so maybe buy a couple and keep on standby incase he does start asking the questions. Or just start thinking of simple ways to answer them questions without telling him too much because he is only 6. I wouldn't worry about it too much, it is normal and just let it come natural