Buying my daughter flowers

[Thegraftingdad]

So here’s the deal, every now and then I’ll buy my other half flowers but next time I pick her some flowers up I intend on buying my 4 year old daughter flowers too. A bunch for both lady’s in my life. The dilemma I’ve got is what could I pick up for my 7 year old lad that would be suitable and not cause arguments between siblings? I can’t leave him out and getting him a magazine or toy would cause a argument between siblings and more tears than it’s worth. Before anyone suggests no he does not want flowers too and yes it has to be flowers for my daughter. Any suggestions?

My son loves getting me flowers. Why don’t you take him along and he can buy his mum flowers and you can get your daughter flowers then let him choose a chocolate or treat he wants at the same time.

By the way I think it’s very sweet :)

That's so cute! I'm sure she'll love them. Maybe get him a special plant he can take care of? Then it's not too 'girly' like his sisters (maybe a succulent? They look cool! He could water it every day!

But if you want to stick with you getting them as a surprise a carnivorous or as spiky as possible (cacti) plant is always appreciated by my son.

My DS used to like flowers in his room at that age.

If getting him a magazine or toy would cause arguments between the siblings it sounds like your DD doesn’t really want flowers as much as she’d like an age-appropriate gift. Just get them both a magazine/ toy and give the flowers to your wife.

I think sweets is a good idea, or edible treat as flowers die, so a permanent present isn't fair.

Sometimes, when I buy myself flowers, I make up a small vase for my (older) daughter to have in her room, a big vase of water in a child's bedroom is not particularly practical...

I'd also watch carefully and objectively to see if it turns out your daughter really would prefer something more like what her brother gets.

I think the idea of taking your son and having him pick the flowers for his sister sounds lovely. Then taking him somewhere for a little chocolate/sweet treat. That way they are both getting something perishable.

You sound like a lovely Dad

My dp used to get flowers for both of our children when he got them for me. They really liked them- but I reckon world war 3 would have broken out I’d rhw had for one flowers and one chocolate!

I'd take both your children to choose flowers for their mum, and their treat is a stop off in a nice cafe for hot chocolate and a cake.
They'd both enjoy that, there's no gender stereotyping going on, and bonus their mum gets a few hours all to herself!

I can’t leave him out and getting him a magazine or toy would cause a argument between siblings and more tears than it’s worth

So actually your DD would prefer a magazine or toy? Get both DC a magazine or toy then. Or take them both to a cafe en route to buying flowers.

My guess is your DD would like flowers but would actually prefer to have the same as your DS.

Totally understand it's not your ds' thing. But how about your dw and kids buy you flowers randomly . Just to give ds the idea - to make your life easier in the future.

Are you sure your 4yo DD wants flowers? Neither of mine would have been bothered. Lego/magazine/sweeties/book/pens? Yes. Choosing flowers for someone else? Yes.

' Both lady's in my life'

@Thegraftingdad you sound really sexist. And FFS do not buy your DS a creative, learning based gift like Lego whilst the women in your life get dying things that smell pretty.

Buy everyone in the family a book. Cheaper, lasts longer, everyone learns, no one gets pigeon holed into being a little princess.