My husband has just called me and had a go at me because I didn't take our DD to nursery this morning, he had to, and it made him late for work.
I am on maternity leave with my DS at the moment and quite often take my DD to nursery when my husband had early meetings etc. This morning he was getting ready for work and could see me wondering about it my pjs making pack lunches, feeding the baby, tidying up etc. But didn't say anything about the nursery run. Then at 7:40 started to say goodbye to us all, at which point I said, ehhhhhh are you not taking DD to nursery?!?! His reaction was to huff and puff and talk about how he needed to leave early... I pointed out that leaving early surely didn't include leaving 5 minutes before the nursery run.... He then acted the martyr and said he would take her even after I said it was fine and I would deal with it.
I then got a call at 8:20 from the DH telling me that he was now stuck in traffic and he was never doing that again, and he is going to be 20 mins late for his meeting and that's if he can find a parking spot, which he apparently won't because he is late. He then started ranting on about various other things that he insinuated I had done wrong. And when I barely replied said Have a good day then hung up.
I don't think that's fair?
I do all the tidying, cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking, probably around 80% of the childcare, whilst he mainly sits on the couch if he isn't at work. I'll also mention that he works in sales and often doesn't have a huge amount to do so instead of helping me on those weeks where he definitely doesn't do anywhere near 40hours a week, he sits and does nothing. I have to ask him to do anything. And even then he complains and takes forever to do anything.
To top it all off he is going away this weekend leaving me alone with a 7 month old and a 23 month old on my own for 3 days. And still seems to think that I should get up with the 7 month old through the night all week and get up at 6am with them because he has to work!
I'm close to passing out the majority of the time I'm so tired, I literally drink about 10 cups of coffee a day and try and get as much sleep as I can but it's just not enough.
I had wrote a big long message to him explaining how his call made me feel and how tired I am, but I can't bring myself to send it because I don't want to annoy him whilst he is at work. But I know by the time he gets home I will have calmed down and won't bother telling him.
Don't know what to do :/ any advice?