School

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Anyone with children in reception?
My little boy keeps coming home saying big boys have been nasty to him and even tripping him up etc? I didn’t even think they was mixed with older children? Does this happen in everyone school?
He showed my the boys and they must be year 5/6
Spoken to his teachers and nothing is ever done about it! I don’t think it’s right that they get mixed up such older kids!! X

Contact school and request meeting with his class teacher and explain you are concerned and ask for him to be kept an eye on for a bit. They probably mix with some older kids at break/lunchtime. They should have lunchtime supervisors etc who keep an eye on kids. If not, ask why not.

Definitely speak to someone at the school. They will of course mix with other classes at lunch, playtime, assembly, special events, etc. But it isn’t normal or okay for older ones to be bullying him. Mine has had nothing but lovely relationships with older years up to year 6 even. It sounds like poor pastoral care and it needs to be raised with someone.

I have spoken to both of his teachers and all they say is they will tell the dinner lady's to keep a eye on him but it's still happening I'm going to the head teacher today x

My son is in reception and had issues with other children. From experience I have found teachers very vague. I wouldn't know it is going on if my son wasn't coming home upset and telling me. He has hit back a few times and really been told off about it. The once I was told by his teacher that they are aware of issues and have kept the other child away. When I asked whats been happening I got 'sorry we arent allowed to tell you as it isn't your child misbehaving'. So my son can be on the receiving end, not wanting to go to school and im not allowed to know whats happening. I was not happy at all. However I have since told the school what he is telling me and how its making him angry. I basically said if my child is pushed to the point he hits back, I will not be punishing him when they have a duty to keep him safe at school. Since then their attitude has changed and my son hasn't come out upset again.
I am not advocating children hitting and being nasty etc. But there is a difference in bad behaviour and sticking up for themselves, and I made this point to his school. They bad behaviour is what needs to be tackled. When he hit back he was told off at school and was distraught. I was disappointed too at first as I couldnt get any sense out of him. When he told me why he did it, how can I possibly punish my child for being provoked and sticking up for himself?
Please speak to someone. Make them know you are aware what is going on and want it stopping asap

Spoken to the head today she didn't really care, that's how she came across! She said she will get the dinner lady's to keep a eye but at break time there's only 2 people looking after them, and there 33 kids in just his class let alone all the other kids!