Hate it when MIL calls my baby spoilt

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Just venting really, but it's so frustrating when my MIL constantly refers to my baby as spoilt . He isn't even 6 months old yet!! This is based on the fact that I have enrolled him in baby swimming classes and completed a baby massage course. She feels the need to compare to how she raised her own family, primarily that they didn't have much because she couldn't afford to give them more. Having is not equal to being spoilt, it's not like he's remotely entitled he's a baby eye roll

Yeah, to me it means entitled and bratty, but thinking about it have heard the other use, e.g. 'you always get a bit spoilt by your grandma'. My first reaction though is that you're saying the child is/will become horrible, and that's obviously not something you'd want to hear!

I took my born in the 80s and 90s babies swimming as did many of my contemporaries. Your mil is talking tosh.

You are being somewhat over sensitive. It’s gentle teasing based in warmth not criticism. If that all you have to get upset about you’re very lucky. Why build barriers?
We tell our dog he’s spoiled stupid. I used to tell my children they were spoilt at various times - when their father brought home presents for no reason other than wanting to, when they had an extra story, when we were cuddled in bed on wet winter mornings, when we’d relented and bought ice creams having said no.
It’s not nastiness it’s just a word meaning indulged.

Thanks guys for all the support, and really like the post recommending saying yes he is very lucky and very loved! I will so adopt to that and then if it doesn't work go with the alarmed spoilt OMG how approach

I wouldn't mind so much if I felt it was coming from an affectionate place but she definitely lands it as if I am doing something wrong, particularly as she likes to say that I am the spoiler, with comments such as oh I bet that's your mum spoiling you. (Okay that doesn't sound bad but I can't quite convey the tone rather messaging!)

It's like when she asks me where I'm taking my baby out on such a frosty morning if she here's we are doing a day trip atm

Sounds like we have lots of lucky babies who are able to have opportunities that we didn't x

@Aprilshowersarecomingsoon that is so very random! Definitely an art form managing some MILS

@Findingthingstough18 so agree with your perception of the word spoilt!

She’s just (rudely) projecting about her perceived inadequacies and sees it (incorrectly) as a bad reflection on her.

Don’t rise to it.

I thought you were going to say designer shoes and big expensive play dates.

But swimming lessons? Haha! Since when did swimming lessons make a child spoilt? Not heard that one before lol...

@PregnantSea exactly!! Although I have had endless comments on how I spoil him with NEXT and baby Gap (despite me sale shopping, not to mention they not being that expensive). I suspect unless it's second hand or over used it's frivolous

My DM thinks I waste money buying from Next. Never mind that the Primark vests I bought were flimsy and washed out in weeks but the Next ones are thick, bright white and being used by DC2 now, having been well worn by DC1.

@OMGithurts I literally have given up trying to explain that washing baby's clothes as many times as we do means quality matters. We will never win lol