I have a 1 month old with my other half who already has a 9 year old. So far it has been pretty difficult, I had to stay in hospital for a week after C-section on antibiotics before coming home and my other half went back to work after paternity leave. During my hospital stay, my step daughters mum allowed her to extend her stay with us from the Christmas period so she could see the newborn however no one asked how I felt about this but actually I felt that it took the support away from my other half being there at the hospital as he would have to go home and spend time with his other daughter too, maybe I'm being a bit selfish but I needed him when I couldn't get out of bed to feed the baby due to lack of tummy strength. Now I'm home I do night feeds all week because he works full time which most argue is fair enough but then on weekends he will somewhat 'try and help' in his words as he has football games every other weekend on a Sunday, training Thursday nights and is also a DJ. Again, some argue he is making money working Friday and Saturday for us but he earns enough from the full time job that the DJ'ing income isn't needed so all the bookings he takes is purely because he loves that job also and because he gets to socialise when he works in his small home village. He is also promising my step daughter that she can come and stay for all school holidays when he has only 4 weeks leave a year and he knows that I'm struggling with the baby and just expects that I'll be fine with this without asking me so we've now arranged to stay at his mothers for half term because I don't feel I'd be able to cope with two as she's very demanding I.e 'what are we doing today? Who are we seeing today?'. All in all I just don't think it's fair that his life doesn't seem to have changed at all and some days he comes back from training or a game and I just feel like handing him the baby and getting in the car and leaving. I've had a few crying meltdowns on him and it's like he's a life saver should he then take over and do one night feed but even then he doesn't do this unless I'm really struggling. He is also a phone addict constantly on it checking football scores, Facebook, any social media and I'm in a battle with this too. I've actually tried to spend more time on my phone and play him at his own game to see if he realises and finds it annoying when roles are reversed but he's not phased at all. I feel like I've lost myself as a fiancé and just become a mum whilst he's carrying on life as normal. Any advice would be much appreciated.