Hi everyone,
My DS teacher spoke to me today about arranging a meeting as she had some concerns about him. He was running to the toilet loads at start of the school year after having a UTI and it then turned into a habit. We thought a the time it was an anxious habit because he was afraid he wouldn't get to the toilet on time on go to the toilet and miss something during play time etc as he has done when he had the UTI. It seemed to have eased off a bit and then Christmas came and went and no more about it until I spoke briefly to the teacher today on passing when I picked him up. I have got myself really annoyed about it, she seems to think it has all got worse in school. He would have been a bit fidgety during class which we were never surprised at but she is saying that along with being anxious about getting to the toilet he is getting up in the middle of class and moving around, spinning around etc. I was totally taken back by this and somewhat cross that my DS wasn't sitting as he should be in class. What I am unclear of and didnt ask at the time was if the teacher is firm with him to get back into his seat or if he is left to his moment. Teacher then said she would be in touch about meeting as we needed to get to the bottom of the underlying issue of what is making him like this.
I don't know what to think. I am strict at home about how he should sit and do his homework and of course there are times he gets distracted like an child but to the extent she is describing I had no idea. It hadn't been affecting his work at the start of the year but now it is getting worse it is. It all worries me. We had a tough year last year. My mother was diagnosed with C at the same time we had to move out of our house to have work done so it was such an upheaval and the whole summer was spent with me anxious about my mum and the house so I can totally see if this has rubbed off on him. We moved back home when school started back but since then it has still been chaotic as we had a cowboy builder and I suppose he sees how annoyed myself and his daddy is about this too. We have new people about all the time asking about the house and trying to get things fixed so there is no getting away from that. The teacher commented how she felt he got anxious when they changed routine or moved to a new activity in the classroom. This is not my son at all so I need to ask further about what she means by this.
Has anyone has anything else similar with their child suffering from anxiety and how it manifests into things? We definitely thought he was getting over it since before Christmas and were oblivious that it had actually got worse at school. I am not worried what can happen, will they want him to speak to someone?