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Chinchilla · 05/09/2004 22:16

On Fri night, I went to a kitchenware party (yawn) at my neighbour's house. During the evening, her husband was telling me about a mutual neighbour (next-door but one to him) who is really horrible to his kids. Apparently he left his two children in the garden for 2 hours in the blazing sun without a drink, under threat of something nasty if they moved. Forgot to mention that he is the SAHP, as his wife works. He also has shut them in the garage and not fed them on at least one occasion. He also threatened to shove his son's cricket bat handle up his (the son's) bottom if he didn't shut up. He drinks to excess, and admitted (whilst under the influence) to dh and the N-D-N yesterday that he had driven home from the pub the other day after drinking.

Bearing in mind, none of this (except the driving part) is first-hand knowledge, and might be exaggerated by the people who told me. They do say that he is a really horrible man, and is always shouting at his kids (so lock me up too!) I just can't get the idea of his poor children sitting in the hot sun out of my mind.

What, if anything, should/can I do? Is it reportable bearing in mind that it is all hearsay from my point of view? Advice would be very much appreciated, even if it is to tell me that there is nothing I can do. I am haunted by the fact that something awful could happen to them, and I could have stopped it.

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essbee · 05/09/2004 22:21

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MummyToSteven · 05/09/2004 22:25

I agree with essbee.

Ghosty · 05/09/2004 22:29

I think that is what I would do too Chinchilla. I once met a lady who worked for the NSPCC and she said that they always check out a situation even if it is an anonymous call ... She also said that they are in the business of 'helping families' not breaking them up ... so perhaps this bloke needs some help ...??

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stupidgirl · 05/09/2004 22:30

Yeah, I also agree with Essbee. It's better to do something and find out everything's ok than to leave it and find out it's not ok, IYKWIM.

Dingle · 05/09/2004 22:31

I couldn't live with myself, having doubt over these childrens wellbeing. Heaven forbid, what if something were to happen? Surely it would be best to report this (anon)at least you would have done what you could.
Good luck with whatever you decide is best.

Chinchilla · 05/09/2004 22:41

Thank you. I will ask the N-D-N a few more details, subtly, and then tell the NSPCC. Thanks for the advice, I thought I might be told that there was no real evidence, and that I was being a busybody! We all shout at our kids, but it sounds much worse than that. Coupled with the drinking, so much could happen to the poor mites.

Thanks again.

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MummyToSteven · 05/09/2004 22:42

it sounds very worrying, very controlling and cruel if true, and certainly worth looking into

hester · 06/09/2004 10:14

I'm glad you've decided to tell the NSPCC; I'm sure it's the right thing to do. I would be very honest with them that it's hearsay. They must be used to this, and will be very aware of the risk that it may be exaggerated etc. It's their job to handle allegations with due sensitivity and care; yours to pass on information that may save a child at risk. Hope all turns out for the best.

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