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Worried :( am I overreacting?

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Evans777 · 31/01/2019 13:22

To keep this short...

My husband and I have been separated for about 5-6 years and have always co-parented our son fairly well.

I have always known that he likes a drink (or 10) every now and then, and I also know that his dad is a an alcoholic and his mum also drinks regularly and smokes....however he has met this new girlfriend in the last two years who I have spent time with twice and on both occasions she has been drinking heavily.

I initially liked this girlfriend and do not want my ex husband to be alone so welcomed her into my sons life, however recently she he attended an event for my child (with her and his parents) and they STANK of alcohol and his gf was acting in a rowdy and frankly embarrassing manner in front of other parents from my sons school (so embarrassing!)

I also know (as she has no issue telling me) that the gf openly let’s her underage child drink booze.

What can I do? I don’t want my son being in this environment every other weekend yet I still want him to see his dad....

Advice please. I am at my wits end

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Jackshouse · 31/01/2019 13:25

How under aged is her child? 7 or 17?

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Evans777 · 31/01/2019 13:36

16 - she made a point of announcing to my child’s school parents (at my child’s birthday party) that her child had “a thick head” that morning as she downed a bottle of wine before going to her prom. I am no prude but that to me isn’t even responsible drinking

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Evans777 · 31/01/2019 13:38

Also on a side note - this birthday party was held at midday last summer and was a tough mudder style party.
The gf brought out a bottle of red from her handbag (despite there being no booze at the party) and proceeded to neck it on her own

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PurpleWithRed · 31/01/2019 13:39

If DS is 16 he’s old enough to work out what’s happening and make his own choices, and for you to have a frank discussion with him about it.

redcaryellowcar · 31/01/2019 13:40

I don't think is DS who is 16, but the step sister?

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Evans777 · 31/01/2019 13:46

Sorry my child is 9, the gf’s child is 16.

My child also FaceTimed me over Xmas saying that his dad wasn’t in the house and was staying at his gf’s and his grandparents were asleep (which from experience means passed out through drinking).

Am I within my rights to deny overnight access? I worry that they aren’t looking after him properly

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Evans777 · 31/01/2019 13:47

This was at 8.30pm

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Jackshouse · 31/01/2019 14:38

If you prevent over night access he can go to court to try and get a court order for access.

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Evans777 · 31/01/2019 14:54

What rights do I have from preventing alcohol consumption near my child or him spending time with this woman? Do you know?

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Jackshouse · 31/01/2019 17:17

Assuming he also has pr none unless it’s considered by ss to be a danger to your child.

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