Reprimanded

[Maureen80]

Hi ladies, as you know from my post last week, my dd(6) had to miss a swim competition last weekend due to our car not starting.

She managed to get to another one this week but again, she could not compete because her coach barred her from swimming it due to missing last weekend competition and missing a session for lessons in midweek because "she did not want to go because of the weekend situation".

I was livid that I drove her over 30 miles to get to a competition that she couldn't compete in. I stayed at the competition with dd but she just cried and sat on my knee so I had to give in and head home because I hate seeing my poor girl upset.

The question is, should I complain about the teacher because she knew about our car because that was the first thing dd told her when she arrived at the pool, or should I just leave it in the hope that the same situation doesn't arise again?

Isn't missing the midweek session the thing that the coach is unhappy about? Why did your daughter miss it?

BlueWonder, she refused to go to that session because of last week situation where she had to miss the competition due to the car not starting.

Swim coaches are usually pretty strict as the kids have to learn discipline for swimming competitively.

Your 6 year old refused to go swimming and you are pissed off that there is a consequence

Just one session though but why wait until we arrive at the pool instead of letting us know before we set off :(.

Why didn't you just reassure her and take her along? I guess she is swimming at a pretty high level and the needlessly missed midweek session is what has annoyed the coach.

Your child in your last two posts isn’t coming across in the best light. There’s consequences for missing training, that’s a rule in every sport. If she wants to compete she must attend practice. You’re doing her no favours spoiling her

I would be pretty angry too.

Your daughter should probably have gone to the mid week training, but she's six and it's not the end of the world.

I'd be very, very annoyed that the teacher didn't tell you before you arrived.

I would just drop the competitive swimming personally.

She is only 6, save your energy and fuel and just take her to play at the pools.

She refused to attend training and you let her. Why would she be allowed to compete?

I think because kids start school earlier in the UK, people are stricter. Six still seems so young to me.

I’d leave it for now and see how things go. Maybe it was just a one off.

Just one session though but why wait until we arrive at the pool instead of letting us know before we set off :(.

Presumably because they are swim coaches not personal secretaries?

I really feel for teachers these days. They even can't reprimand a child without a parent complaining.

Your daughter missed practice and you allowed this, so of course there are going to be consequences. It's a good lesson to be learned.

However, you're right to be annoyed that the teacher didn't tell you in advance!