6 year having loads of strops and being ungrateful

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Recently I have had a lot of “it’s not fair” comments from my six year old. She is also complaining “I want everything to go my way and nothing’s going my way”. She has ended up with loads of presents due to birthday then Christmas in December. She had some presents given late and when she opened one the other day she actually threw it down saying “I didn’t want that”. Luckily the person who gave it wasn’t present and we had words about how it would have made them feel. I feel like she has no idea how lucky she has been with all her lovely presents and I am struggling to handle this behaviour, partly because it makes me super cross! Any tips?

I would have said "that's fine, you won't get it and I'll take some of your other presents back aswell for being for ungreatful and spoilt" and would have done just that.

Nope but my 6 year old is exactly the same!

Now at the moment it's "I don't care" to anything you say. Soooo frustrating and now of course their younger siblings are copying.

They are so ungrateful too! Embarrassing when relatives give them gifts and they are so rude and dismissal about it!

Fingers crossed 🤞it's just a phase!

My seven year old has gone through phases of acting like that too. I’d clamp down on any rudeness - tell her off firmly for it - and make her re-word something in a better way if necessary - if she refuses, take away a privilege, like she can’t have a favourite toy for a few days or whatever. That toy she complained about, id remove it and say she can have it back in a week if her attitude has changed. I also sometimes get my dd to list things she’s thankful for - she has to think of three things. Then I praise her a lot for it and say, well done it’s really good to be thankful and you’ve thought of some good things there.
I think too they can get overwhelmed by all the presents and it makes them act out a bit.

I do think she was overwhelmed by how many presents she had. She had a big party so got absolutely loads.
I like the idea of getting her to think of things she is thankful for.
She is normally so thoughtful and caring, it’s a bit of a shock!

If my child did that for one I'd make him pick it up right away. I'd tell him to never and I mean never do that again or he gets nothing for his next birthday. That behaviour is completely unacceptable and to be quite frankly he sounds like a brat. Children will do as much as you allow them to, and apparently your child feels like he/she can do what she wants. You need to put your foot down and be stern. If you allow for your child to be this way now, wait until your child is a teenager and she/he will only be 1000 times worse.

I’d be telling people coming to her next party that there’s no gifts nessessary.
Nobody enjoys being around a spoilt child

That’s a bit harsh, lots of children act a bit spoilt and bratty at times but the OP has said she wants to address it the issue. Some children are more prone to acting like this than others, and it doesn’t mean there’s some major character flaw, they’re still learning and growing

If she's normally thoughtful and caring as you say, it could well be that she's over-tired: that plays havoc with their behaviour (which makes you cross - since it's unexpected, and you're probably tired too - which can send things into a downward spiral).

See if you can calm things down for a few weeks: cut down on outings and after school activities, make sure she's getting early nights, and cut right down on screen time (which always makes them grouchy if they are tired).

Hopefully in a few weeks, things will be back to normal.