Dd isn't talking. When yo worry

[JustLetMeSleep1]

My dd is 20 months and doesn't talk, only screams, manages to say yeah, no, dad.
She understands everything.
Our other dd is 5 going on 15, and she talks ALOT. I mean we can't get a word in. We have to tell her she needs to be quiet when we put other dd to bed because her voice echos. She even talks to the TV if no one is there, and talks in her sleep.
When 5yr old wants something she tells us dd2 wants it, or shouts that dd2 wants something.
Do I worry? Is it because dd is talking/asking for her so she doesn't need too?

My DS2 didn't really have any words until he was 2. He's now 9 and is absolutely fine, doing well in school etc. Having said that, I did worry at the time. Maybe get your DD on the list for speech and language therapy as there may be a waiting list?

My ds didn't start until exactly 2 (pretty much took off then in full sentences) but there's really no harm in asking to be referred for SLT as the waiting lists can be so long.

I wouldn't worry yet, if she has some words and understands everything you're saying.

Snap!

DS didn’t start talking till 2 and now at 2.3 he is doing 3/4 words at a time. His pronounciation is pretty dire though.

I’ve known a couple of cases where a child with a speech delay (and actually I don’t think that’s where you are yet) has a loquacious older sibling 😬

Does your youngest go to playground/ nursery? That might help...

Sauvignon

Mine is the same age and also doesn't talk. She says Hiya, ta ta and ta. Attempts to shout her sister's name. Doesn't really have much understanding of what I'm saying. I know I shouldn't compare but I'm friends on Facebook with someone who has a daughter a couple of weeks younger and she has been talking for months. She posts videos of her naming different animals and pointing at different shapes and saying what they are. I'm a bit concerned but have the HV back out on Wednesday to talk about it.

My sister and I were like your dd's..."dd2 says I can have her biscuit" etc. I spoke in my own time. My older sister is still a bit bossy with me.

My own dd1 was a prolific early talker exhausting ! Dd2 had 20 useable words at 3. I took her to a speech therapy lady (through the hv), who wasn't in the slightest bit worried. Apparently it's the understanding. So you could say, can you go and get me your yellow socks with the bunnies on? And she'd trot off without a word. She started to talk at pre school, and was fluent in a month . One of her first sentences was "You can call me Lizzie, that is my name". Apparently I had been giving her the wrong shortening for 3 years. But you catch my drift!

If you are concerened, see the hv, but I'm guessing all is ok.

(Dd2 also potty trained overnight after I said she was a bit big for nappies...turns out she waits until she can do something really properly before she does it).

my son is 28 months and doesn't talk only words are yes no hiya and bye

I'm like LonelyOversharer, DD never spoke at all until she was 3. Then she went to preschool and started speaking in sentences. I think I'd been "helping" too much and speaking for her, whereas the other children at preschool just said " why don't you talk" . And so she did.

If your DD can understand everything I'd say she is just waiting until the time is right.

Mine have been 13 months, 3.5 years, 17 months and still not at 22 months.

I didn't expect so many comments haha..
Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. No she isn't in a nursery yet but do go playgroup, she's just really shy without her big sister about.
I will get in touch with hv on Monday I'll give them a quick ring.
I agree with a pp that it is comparison to other kids the same age which is where this comes from.

DS had 5 words at 18 months, understood everything. I think he may have been behind in speech when he started reception but had caught up by year 1 when he was assessed. I was almost non verbal until 3.5, then started talking in full sentences.

My DS2 barely said anything until he was two, and he was three before he started speaking sentences, and in a way that most people can understand. We were repeatedly told that as long as he responded appropriately, had some words and seems to have a good understanding, he would probably be fine. Our GP did, however, refer him for a hearing check at 2.6.

@JustLetMeSleep1 its pointless ringing HV as they are a-bit ignorant about it till there 2, but I would to get on the waiting list... my DD started saying a lot more words at 27-28 Months, and because of this they have discharged her from speech therapy... even though she cant put a sentence together 🤔 they also told me to put her in nursery to help her speech... which I have and she doesn't say half as much there as what she does at home !!

Thanks, how do I go about putting her on a waiting list? Visit GP?

It's much too early to worry about her not talking. My dgs was 3.5 before he started but now he's 5 there's no stopping him.

As so many other posters have said, she will talk when she's ready, but have you tried teaching her a few signs she can use to ask for things or to communicate? You don't need to go to any classes - just have a look on the internet, but it can help if she's getting frustrated and screaming.

DS1 barely said a word until 3. He was referred for speech therapy, but had suddenly fathomed the art of talking in full sentences and never stopping by the time of his appointment! Loquacious should be his middle name, frankly...

His three year old half sister has been talking at the level you'd expect of a five year old since well before she was two. It's funny how kids can be so different when it comes to speech. She plays with friends the same age who are only just staring to put words together in sentences.

One of my DCs didn't talk unti about 2,5, you wouldn't now be able to tell which one it was.