Trouble with my children's father

[Nicojodie]

I'm divorced from my children's father. At the start he had them one night a week and then every other weekend, Friday till Sunday and they came back Sunday night. Until he met his new girlfriend, who is alot younger than him at 24. They now have 2 children of their own and now my 2 children don't exist. His words were "I have a new family now" They now only see him on a Monday night. Over time they have been pushed out of the family and are now at the point where they don't feel wanted, unloved and in the way. This is having a profound effect on them especially my daughter. They have asked him why he doesn't want them anymore at the weekend, but it falls on deaf ears. We are at the point now where my daughter is extremely depressed, about this and isn't eating or sleeping as she's worrying about it and doesn't see what the point in going anymore is as they only see him for 4 hours. They worship the ground he walks on but i just can't make him see what he's doing to them. I have suggested to him that we meet up and talk this through to give the children the opportunity to view their worries. His response was "whats the point" the children seem scared to tell him how they feel when they're on their own with him so i have had to intervene. I think he's convinced himself that everything is fine when deep down i know he know's how he is treating them is wrong. If he won't agree to meet i'm not sure what the next step is

You can’t change his behaviour. How old is your DD? Can you get her some counselling? Just a reminder to make sure that child maintenance is now calculated on him not having any over nights.

Your daughter needs therapy/counselling. I wpuld focus on that because unfortunately not every person is willing to correct their mistakes. Their dad sounds like such a person unfortunately. He's a disgusting person and your children deserve better.

If it's any consolation, I was estranged from my dad for a long while during my child hood but we're now close, so there can be a light at the end of it all. But the most important thing about our reconnection was the fact he apologised first. And tbh my dad would never say anything so awful.

I think she may need some councelling and i have an appointment to speak with our doctor. He has even stopped calling her now as they didn't go on Monday night. I messaged him to say if you're not willing to sit and talk about this then they won't be coming until we do. I have spoken with both of my children and have asked their thoughts, they have both said they don't want to go until we sort it out as nothing will change. He didn't reply or get in contact and i haven't heard from him since the message. My daughter is 13 and my son is 9.