Is this Year 6 teacher out of order?

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My 11 year old has come out of school really holding back the tears today. I could see in her face how upset she was, as soon as she got in the car she burst out sobbing - actual sobbing and shaking.

She said her class had been doing work from the board, she couldn't quite see the board and so did the work wrong. She tried to explain to the teacher what happened and he said "Don't speak to Me" and then asked her why her face was so red.

Now, as her mum I am fuming her would make her feel this way. I felt like marching back in the school and asking why he's speaking to her like this. But I kept my calm, came home and thought I'd gather opinions on whether this is acceptable?

Her vision has always been fine, past couple of months she has said it's not as good so we've made an eye test (was fine at the last routine appointment) first one was cancelled and next one is in February. I haven't mentioned it to her teacher as to be honest I didn't think to, today is the first day she's told me she couldn't see the board. She's a really good kid, never misbehaves, polite, does her work as asked. I just don't understand why he wouldn't let her explain.

I've only met him once as we're yet to have a second parents evening. But at the first one I was quite surprised by him, he's very young, wouldn't make eye contact, spoke to my daughter instead of me about her progression. I just feel like something is off but that could just be me.

Sorry for the essay but do I escalate this further or wait and see how she goes?

I think the teacher was a bit crap. But I would be more concerned about how upset the girl was- it doesn’t sound like a sobbing and shaking thing for an 11 year old, frankly. Is there more to the story?

Yeah its not great teaching but shaking and sobbing is way ott and much more of a concern

OP, I'm sorry your daughter was upset, something sounds not right for it to have affected her so badly. I think I would try to have a quiet talk to the teacher, under the guise of mentioning the vision issue, and see what they say about it.

If she is sobbing and shaking over one comment then I would wonder if she had judged the situation very well.

Poor girl. If you are quiet and don't normally say boo to a goose, of course you are going to get upset if a teacher speaks to you like that when you need help. Some kids need bringing into line if they are insolent or are misbehaving, but that's not the case here.

I would definitely contact the school about this one. Maybe a note to that teacher, and a duplicate to her form teacher.

I think the teacher was out of line, but not very out of line, if you see what I mean. Your DD probably does need to work on her resilience a bit, OP.

With op I think this is similar to the other post . Like the other OP you excuse your own failings but are livid with the teacher .

i agree with you OP. I think it is completely out of order, especially, for him to have asked why your DD had gone red. Its almost as if he purposely wanted to belittle and embarrass her. Also instead of telking your DD to not speak to him is rude, he could of worded it a lot differently for e.g "please can you wait a minute" if he was too busy to speak to her at that time. I do think you should go in to speak to the school. This has nothing to do with your daughters eye sight, it is the way he spoke to your daughter. Unacceptable and unprofessional!

Apologies, I misread the original post and thought we were talking about a child in Y7. Presumably this is your child's whole class teacher, if she's still in Primary School, in which case I'd speak to him. But I wouldn't make too big a deal of it with your DD - better to smooth things over with her - and just check if there is any other reason why she got so upset.