Being Lonely

[broonie77]

Having had a child 4 years ago and moving away from friends and family, I have found being a parent really lonely. I moved into a new area straight after having my LO and moved again approx 12 months ago, although I’m “friendly” with the other parents at nursery drop offs, saying hi down the shops etc I’m finding it really hard to integrate myself into the mummy world (I never had problems with this when I didn’t have a child). I do work 3 days a week and the 2 days I’m off my LO goes to the local Nursery so don’t really have time for classes etc. I feel so lonely, has anyone else ever experienced this? It’s so hard when you see all the other more confident mums all chilling having a laugh, walking together down the street! Maybe I’ve turned awkward post-baby 😂😂. But seriously has anyone experienced loneliness after having a child?

It can get lonely, especially in a new area. I just wondered whether you could switch your childcare up so that you get to spend the 2 days you are off with your child and you can go to groups?

Tbh there are no local groups on the days she goes to school nursery, most groups are on the days I work, thought it would be better that she mixes with kids she will go to school with rather than just go to soft play. My DD is having a ball....... Im trying to get more involved with school parent groups etc, just hard being “the new girl”. But I suppose everyone has got to start somewhere!

I did feel lonely at times in the early days, although DS and I were living with my parents so technically I had company 24/7

You can be “friendly” with other parents but making actual friends is harder.. I know how it is. However, it sounds like you are doing everything right and I think slowly but surely, you’ll start to feel more integrated