So....I have 3 dc. Eldest is 21 ds and is away at uni. Middle is 12, nearly 13yr old dd. And I have dd who’s 10 top.
12yr old dd1 is being really difficult. Now I know teens are hideous!! I’ve been through it with ds. It’s tough. I don’t expect anything different with my girls. But I felt I got it wrong with my son. We were friends and he took the piss quite a lot in my opinion. Then I couldn’t get the respect back.
I want to do things differently this time. We’ve always been pretty close and I really boost her and speak highly of her to others, beit in front of dd or when she’s not there. Either way, it’s often fed back.
If I tell her off for something, she’s really bitchy back. I can try it sternly or softly, or even friendly, and still I get a bitchy reply. Today I was talking to her really nicely about random stuff and she rolled her eyes as if she was bored. I asked her not to do that as it was rude. I said I’d been talking nicely to her, so it would be kind if she reacted nicely back to me. Her answer was ‘well you’re fake and smug when you’re like this!’
I can’t bloody win!!
Anyone with a magic trick to getting this right??