4 year old upset a lot

[Pattinson3]

Hi, My daughter is 4 years old and an only child - so not sure if this is normal 4 1/2 year old behavior or not. I am hope you lovely ladies of mumsnet will be able to help.

Recently (last month or so) her moods have been set at a default of "upset", everyday after school she is in tears about someone not wanting to play with her although the atmosphere is always warm & friendly between her and her chums & drop off & pick up. When we went to soft play at the weekend she was in tears afterwords and claimed she had no fun at all due to the party at the soft play she wasn't invited to (i understand this is hard for a 4 year old). Even small dramas such as spilling a slushie she may bring up hours after it has happened in a very upset voice, crying. That can range to during a movie asking if she is going to die and upset also at this concept. Up until now she has always been very happy all the time & there has been no upsets at home or anything to trigger this.

Is this normal 4 year old behavior/normal phase?

Thanks in advance.

Is she in Reception OP? And if she is, could she just be exhausted?

Thanks for the reply Jilted! Yeah she is in reception but she was in a full time crèche before that so shouldn't be a major disruption! She is just very super sensitive and I guess negative? But I wasn't sure if that was normal 4 year old behaviour and leave well enough alone or something I should be trying to help or correct as such. Parenting a total minefield!

I would do my best to focus on something positive if she’s just whinging for the sake of it. For example, her slushy. How did you deal with it? “But we cleaned it up, didn’t we? Good job helping me. And you got juice instead. That made you happy”. Kids not playing with her? “They were so happy to see you yesterday at school. I bet they’ll be happy to see you when we go to school tomorrow”. Etc. Misery loves company. Obviously if she’s genuinely upset then don’t brush it off but I wouldn’t get focused on her dragging the mood down all the time.

Thanks for the advice!