What should i do?

[Floralgizelle]

My grandparents did not approve when i first got pregnant (been with my partner 7 years and had our own house, both finishing degree with full time jobs), i wasnt there when she was told as it was my father who told them he was furious and told us not to go round (i found this quite frustrating as we now dont know what was said so find it harder to judge what to do) my father is prettty laid back so must have been insulting. She did the same to my father and mother when they were having me and the same to her other son and his wife. Her own daughter also didnt tell her she was pregnant as she was terrified what she would say. They came to visit our DS when we was born and caught us off guard but after that we didnt persue any form of contact. Id already reached out to them previous of this as we were never close and felt like i needed to give them a chance while i could, going round at xmas and after holidays to share photos (no one else bothers with them) this obviously stopped after their comments. Do i take our DS so they get to meet him of continue to ignore them?

Does seeing them make you feel better at all? Do they make any effort to see you or talk to you?

To be honest not really, and they dont bother, we dont recieve christmas card or birthday cards. Maybe just feel like ive been the bigger person and often wonder if if regret it if anything happened to them. If that makes sense?

I can totally understand how you feel. I'd keep things civil but don't go out of your way to keep the relationship going if they aren't interested. That's assuming there's nothing else going on? Does either of them have a health problem that would consume their time?

Not that im aware of, we've never been particularly close even when i was a child. Theyve only seen our son once which was just after he was born they came round, that was 2 years ago, it just recently occured to me that they havent properly met him and was it up to me to take him but then i suppose we've never been particularly close. Didnt know whether it was worth making the first move or just continue as normal but then i sometime wonder how woild i feel and my father (although hes not close to them either) if anything happened to them and they never actually got to meet him properly. I think im probably just over thinking.