Too late to find mum mates?

[KCpip]

When I had DD1 for one reason or another I didn’t meet a big group of mum mates. I’ve got used to that and now that DD1 has just turned 4 she has a lot of her own mates and I know mums through that. DD2 is 2 and now with two children and all logistics of being here for this, there for that I didn’t meet a big mum group with her either. I have mum friends but they all have their own main circle of mum mates. I go to plenty places where I chat with other mums but I never feel like I have time to properly chat when you have two kids with you. I sometimes long for some closer friends but don’t really know how to find the time for it. Before kids I was always the sort of person with a small group of friends but very close. Anyone else feel like this or is it just me?

What about inviting your friends from before you had dc, to meet up for a meal one evening ?

Or, if looking for new friends, joining (or starting) a book club, or (even better) a film club.... you could even invite people you've met with your dc, make it the 3rd Friday of the month, fairly early start - watch a film, then discuss it afterwards over a drink. Obviously you don't have to stick to discussing the film, but it is something non-threatening to invite people to, as opposed to a "I'm looking to make new friends cos I haven't got any so will you go out with me?" type invitation.
If it's too expensive to go to the pictures then do the same wiht a DVD at your house.

I have made mum friends through my DDs’ school and nursery. Didn’t make any when they were babies (except one, but we only got to be friends 2 years later...) So I’d say, not too late - has your older one started school yet?

I rid make a small bunch of mum friends when DD was a baby. But since starting school have made another group of friends. We all use and abuse each other for child care/sleepovers/day trips/Halloween parties etc. But also meet for coffee/have dinner/hang out/go shopping etc without kids (but with wine 😉). Not always in a group.
I reckon school might be your opportunity. Waiting every day, twice a day in the same place makes for plenty of opportunities. Or 3 days a week if, like me, you work p/t.

I found volunteering for PTA sort of stuff really helped to get to know people.

Thanks for suggestions. DD1 not started school yet but maybe that’s the next window of opportunity. I do have some mum friends but miss the feeling of a close group that know each other well. I often feel that dashing between one thing to the next I never have time or energy to put in the effort. And in the evenings I flop out. Not sure I’m very good company anymore. I work a lot too so when I’m not doing things with the kids I’m usually at work. Interested to know if other people experience this too.

My DD is almost 3 and I don't have any local mum friends. She's at a day nursery but parents all drop off and pick up at different times and are rushing off to work, so I don't see anyone regularly or for long enough to chat. I'm hoping that starting school might be easier. I miss it too and as DH works away a lot I get no chance for evenings out with my old friends who all live some distance away.

Didn't meet any either till mine started school, so plenty of time! Suggest a coffee when you are all there holding back the tears when you drop them for the 1st morning at Reception

I found this. I ended making some friends at nursery when I picked up. Would often be faffing around with coats/hats etc getting ready to walk home and end up making conversation with other parents doing the same. Started making the effort not to rush off each time but to talk to other parents or children also in the foyer as people had more time at the end of the day. Some would then be walking the same way as well. I met one of my closest friends that way.

I met my mum friends once DS started school, by Y2 we were really close and Aldi made some through a hobby he does. Don't worry, there will be more opportunities.