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My kids have no respect

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Snakepit · 30/06/2007 21:04

My kids do not respect anything, they take off their clothes and just sling them on the floor, they come home from school and just sling their coats and bags on the floor, so many thing get lost and broken it's untrue.

Their bedrooms are a tip, my 8 year old manages to keep his room decent simply because he got rid of all of his toys (was never a toys kinda child) but coathangers are left on the floor, I bought him a green day calender and the drawing pin apparantly "fell" out of the wall and the calender was just left slung on the floor, all the pages creased up etc , I bought him a big poster of his favourite band too and its hanging off the wall where its been ripped away from the drawing pins. I bought him a Nintendo DS for Christmas and a few months later he "Lost" it, rather than being distressed about it being lost he just shrugged his shoulders and said "well I don't know where it is do I?" and refused to look for it, I explained how much they cost and he just said "thats not much, psps cost more than that" . I found it in the end but the games are forever going missing, one of them is currently on the bedroom floor, the box wide open on the floor with the inlay lying at the other side of the room.

My 6 year old is just as bad, you cannot get in his room without stepping on toys, mostly broken toys because they've been left in the middle of the floor.

He has loads of playmobile and he will not leave the buildings standing, I spent a whole afternoon last week building the police station, vehicals and zoo for him and asked him not to break them up as it took me so long to do...needless to say they're all in pieces on the bedroom floor now.

How do I change this behaviour? I find it very upsetting, they're so spoit and ungrateful. I've already told them that I'll be buying no toys at christmas and they'll only be getting useful things like clothes, maybe dvds etc, they don't care.

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Hathor · 30/06/2007 21:08

Stop buying them stuff. Get them to clear out all the broken toys and tidy rooms, and choose 3 toys to have out at a time. If they play nicely with those, give them the choice of swopping them for another 3 from the cupboard.

Make them tidy up regularly. They will then appreciate how hard you are working.

brimfull · 30/06/2007 21:08

You had my sympathy until you last sentance...empty threat! as you know you won't beable to NOT buy them toys at xmas,and they know it1.Start with real punishments that mean something to them,be it taking toys away ,not having friends over,not being taken somewhere...anything as long as they feel it.

giddy1 · 30/06/2007 21:13

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LyraB · 30/06/2007 21:15

I agree with Hathor, put ALL the toys away, then let them have a couple and see how they get on with them. if they break them or don't look after them, refuse to get any more out. And don't buy them ANYTHING more till they're looking after what they do have.
I do sympathise over the Playmobil thing. I bought mine the Playmobil Rock Castle at Christmas. The damn thing takes forever to put together but it only stays in one piece for a few days, then they pull it apart. I've put it away till they learn their lesson and next time I build it I'm using superglue

Snakepit · 30/06/2007 21:16

I've seriously considered using superglue on their playmobil too! lol

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admylin · 30/06/2007 21:19

I think one thing that I've noticed with mine is - if I tell them or more like remind them to do something, they'll do it but if I just expect them to remember to do it then they very conveniently forget (thinking of school bag, coats, sport stuff and shoes just chucked in the hall) It's the same in the mornings they still need coaching as in get washed, now you get dressed, now you brush teeth and now it's time to put shoes on.

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