Child telling lies at school..

[CandyCreeper]

Child today told the school I hit and kick him, I dont and the school have referred to social services, He also said I hit his baby sister which I do not. Im really shock and dont understand why he has done this. Has this happened to anyone else? what can I expect to happen now?

SS will look to see if the house is reasonable clean and tidy the kids have toys and access to food and clean beds

Ripped wallpaper is neither here or there

Ok thanks I just dont want to be marked down for it, I havent replaced it as the wallpaper is no longer sold and im switching rooms with my daugher anyway so that she has the bigger room as she will eventaully be sharing with the baby so didnt want to redecorate till then.

Wait, if smacking isn’t illegal where you are, why are social services even involved

Because he said he is hit and kicked and his baby sister is hit. Hopefully that would be considered unacceptable. If i had my way smacking would be considered unacceptable too

I think its just because of the kick as baby is a toddler so as smacking is legal there isnt actually an age on when it is acceptable? So probably because of saying I kick him. which would be unacceptable (but smacking itself is legal in england) Just thinking about it some more, him and his brother fight alot, they were fighting in a supermarket and wouldnt listen to my (many) attempts to get them to stop so I pulled him off his brother as he was hurting him! He told me afterwards I had “hurt” him though he wasnt crying and I had used reasonable force to remove him, afterwards he told me his neck was going to fall off! children exaggerate! he told me he was going to tell his aunty that I had hurt him and ofcourse she knew it didnt happen as he said. If he had told the school im sure they would have put down that I strangle him. Just praying this all blows over.

My friend’s DD told her teacher that “Daddy stuck something up my bottom”. Thankfully, friend was present and was able to explain it was a paracetamol suppository, as the child had been off school with a high fever and vomiting too much to take oral meds!
I can just imagine the SS referral that would have ensued from that little bombshell!
My own DD told her headmistress that I gave her rum. The head knew me well enough (small village school) to think this unlikely, and after much puzzling I finally realised DD had seen me put a tablespoonful into my home made chocolate cake!
Kids say the craziest things at school. I’m sure SS will be fine about your wee one’s stories, OP, as long as everything seems happy at home and he’s well cared for and loved.

I feel so much more relaxed and its very reassuring to hear others have had similar happen. I was crying my eyes out yesterday after the accusation, I just could never imagine hitting my children so being accused of it felt awful especially as I feel they (the school) think im “guilty”

Whilst smacking isn’t illegal, if a child tells a teacher they are smacked it has to be recorded and reported. Parents who admit to it and everything else is well are usually referred to parenting classes. I doubt much will come to it if your children are doing well at school and seem happy.

Starting the thread with "child" seems a bit cold.

OP, people on here will find any reason to have a dig, you don't need to explain yourself to them. Don't bother trying to convince them or you'll tie yourself up in knotts while they pick apart your posts.

Try not to worry too much about this, it'll be short and sweet. Mine loudly asked if I was going to lock him in the cupboard again in a queue once. Little bugger. It's mortifying at the time.

Yeh thanks gamerchick, people just trying to look for something that isnt there so I wont bother.

child is cold 😂 yes he is my “child” 😂😭

At least they haven’t taken your child away from you whilst they investigate
My cousin’s four year old son was taken away from himself and his wife. His son told the TA that his father fights with him. The TA reported it to the school and the child was immediately removed.
The child was in foster care for ten days whilst investigations took place
The so called fighting was play fighting.
The irony is that my cousin doesn’t believe in smacking.

As a teacher I have referred a number of allegations that I’m very confident were true, that went nowhere. The worst being the police ringing mum to tell her, mum going mad at child that night then withdrawing all allegations when it was investigated in a slow manner. Child then home educated for years as a response.

I’ll also had a few like yours, most we gently filter before passing on (eg very young child say mum smacked him, we ask what smack means, child says shouting loud and demonstrates a cross hands on hips and scowl pose). One was awful as child took it a very long way, before admitting. He was older though with a long history of accusing teachers when angry.

Thats my worse fear areyoubeingserviced I actually know someone who had a similar thing happen and the child was eventually returned. I worried that would happen, she hasnt even spent a night away from me once. Would have been horrendous.

Thankfully my son has admitted that he was lying and doesnt know why he said it, and that he knows I dont hit him or anyone else. Must be hard when they keep up with the lies.

SO child came to me today and told me “guess what mummy” “when S (his sister) was zipping my zip up she punched me in the eye!” now I know that didnt happen, there are no marks and he didnt cry and anyway DD is very gentle, How to deal with a child that says stuff like this?!!! If he went to school and said “mummy punched me when zipping my coat up” That would land in a police report Can I speak to the school again? AS i barely said anything in the meeting I was so speechless and upset. I also want to ask them about the questions they asked. (they asked my older son if mummy shouts and gets angry and if our house is messy)!