18 month old with sudden separation anxiety?

[BlackpoolMama29]

Hello Mumsnetters,

Has anyone else experienced a complete personality change in their toddler at around 18 months? My DD has recently started being so grumpy, only ever says 'no', tantrumming at the smallest things/for no reason.

This has coincided with traumatic screaming at bedtime (she used to go down no problem- great routine bath, book, bed straight to sleep- we still attempt the routine but now punctuated with 'no no no' and anxiety when PJs and sleeping bag are bought out) and screaming for 30 mins or so when put down. Shes not wet or hungry just wants to be cuddled . We initially go in and cuddle over side of cot and try to lay back down, after that ashamed to say we leave her to cry but going in repeatedly seems to wind her up!

Same at nursery drop off- screaming and crying 'no' 'mama' after perfectly happily being dropped off since 7 months old.

Any ideas? Any advice? All appreciated!

Bump. Please help!

Yes me too, at 16mo. She says no - chair wanting to have more cuddles after story is finished and time for bed. Talking everything through helps but I’ve had to be firm which involves some crying.

Thanks for your reply!

If she wants more cuddles, why don’t you give them to her? Shea obviously going through something, and need you to be there for her...not leave her in a room crying. Sorry to be judgy, but that’s just cruel. Babies go through changes, just like we do, sometimes we need more attention and comfort, and we’d be upset if someone closest to us ignored us.

I know twinkle I have thought that. The first two nights I went in and picked her out, cuddled her until settled and as soon as I tried to lay her back down she would go full hysteria again. After doing that a few times I ended up going down to check on dinner leaving her crying and by the time I came back up she was asleep! So I don’t know her feel awful now!

she gets a quick cuddle standing up while i sing twinkle twinkle and put down as she always has. cuddles in the chair don't end well, she just gets upset again whenever u try to put her down. i have dd1 waiting for a story and chat.

it took less than a week and she knows the routine. barely a winge beyond the first minute.