DS staying over at Granny's

[fruitandve]

Hello,
My DS (11 months) is staying at his granny's one night a week (Sunday), as logistically it works better when I go back to work.

He's never stayed over before and I want to do a trial run. Do you think it's better if I leave her to it, or should I go and stay over and help with settling him?

She is super but I don't want to take the biscuit and just disappear (I'm also incredibly nervous about leaving him).

Any tips very much appreciated.

Better she finds her own routine I think. If you put him to bed and he wakes up at 3am with you nowhere to be seen I suspect he'll be inconsolable.

Ask her what she would prefer, she may feel a bit uneasy and overlooked if you stay as you will never do things in the exact same way.
You may also find it easier not being there as if DS gets upset at first it won't be easy to take that step back and he may take longer to settle knowing you are close.

DD1 stayed overnight with MIL from about the same age during the week as she would have her for 2 days and due to distance it was a better routine for DD rather than being picked up close to bedtime for the drive home.

Thank you both. I think it would be best if we left them to it, but it's my MIL and my husband thinks we should be there. It wouldn't be my choice but there we go. Thank you for your advice!

My DD (13 months) will be staying over at grandmas for the first time next month. I've wrote a brief routine schedule for my MIL so she knows what we already do, but can put her own take on it without feeling I'm taking over. Plus, I really do fancy a night off and to go out for a meal with DH after 7pm! Lol!