Using force to reason with my child??

[MommyShark89]

Hey y'all!!
Right, my 5 year old DS was being very naughty yesterday, and in the heat of the moment, I ended up slapping him. This was the first time its happened to me and I don't know what to do! I love him so much, and it pains me to hurt him, but sometimes, he just doesn't understand!
What should I do?
I hope you're having a fantastic day, thanks for stopping by this thread .

What was he doing?

Was it a slap on the back of the hand? Was he hurt? Did it make him understand or was he not really bothered?
I know how you are feeling by the way.

Sometimes things get too much, it's hard in the heat of the moment. It's not right though and you see this, you aren't a terrible person. I'd sit him down and say sorry, you didn't mean to lose your temper and hitting isn't right, even for Mummys.

You seem far too happy about something that you’re supposed to be upset about try explaining things clearly to your child instead of resorting to slapping him? Hope your not in the uk because it’s illegal

I caught him drawing all over the walls of his room! I sat him on my lap and tried to explain why he was being naughty, but he had a tantrum and bit me !

Apologise and don’t do it again.

Hitting him is a loss of control and teaches him that it’s ok to physically hurt someone to get them to do what you want.

It won’t work and certainly will backfire at some point if you carry on.

@WhoIsBU It wasn't a hard slap, I think he was more surprised than hurt. I mean, I hadn't done anything like this before...

@MommyShark89 I wouldn't slap my child for drawing on the walls... I wouldn't be leaving pens around for it to happen

apologise and resolve not to do it again and move on.

Maybe have a read of something like Calm Parents, Happy Kids.

@HJWT I know!!! It's all my fault, I should have known better. I'm so worried and upset

A 5 yo throwing tantrumns is something to worry about tbh. At that age you would expect them to be reasoned with. Does he do that often?

Ohh OP, I can see why you lost your temper, even though it is the wrong way to deal with a situation.

This is something my DD would do, esp with the biting, so I am also following this thread for advice and books to read.

Thank you so much @RiverTam, I just ordered it, seems like a good read!

yes, I read it with a parenting book group and we all really enjoyed it and took a lot from it.

@Cherries101 Oh no he's so sweet usually, I don't know what happened .

I hit my DD 9m ago ish . It’s vividly stuck in my head and I can’t tell what happened in the lead up something about disturbing her little bros nap.
I’m still angry with myself.
I’ve apologised. And I have never done it again. I ensure I now get time away daily, I walk away when angry (after removing the pen for example) and come back. I do still shout tho. Working on that.