Anyone else's dp jealous of their baby?

[wellwishes]

Just that really, always says he's put out and is second best. I feel like it's only really been me that has adjusted, we don't live together as relationship was too rocky and I'm not planning to rush into anything.

Just wondered if anyone else is also dealing with this level of immaturity and how ?

Is this his child? I don’t think you can deal with level of immaturity.

His child yeah

Bloody hell. No.

How old is your baby? The one you gave birth to, I mean?

That isn't normal. I wouldn't trust him with the baby.

No, because he’s not an absolute prat.

Just wondering how old you both are? You don't want to rush into anything by moving in together but yet you have a baby together, hat is the biggest responsibility ever.

If you are not living together is it just that you are unable to spend as much time together of an evening because you are at your house with the baby ?

He doesn't sound like a real grown-up yet!

River the baby is 7 months old

Tigger we're 25. Baby wasn't planned (contraception fail) but we where both pleased. But I don't want to rush living with him when the relationship has been rocky, the baby doesn't need to be around that.

Yeah me being home at night bathing the baby and thing he does feel lonely. But this has been since the baby was born he said he felt second best.

I am sorry in advance here but these type of posts really annoy me.

Get rid of him if he cannot act like an adult. Why would you want or need a selfish idiot like that. You are on track for a whole host of problems and it is dangerous territory.

Protect your child - this needs to be your priority above all else.

Well he is second best. So he just needs to deal with it or feck off.

Have a good talk with him
When baby is in bed. Can he not come round and help with bedtime, bath time, tea time etc? It might help him feel included. I think a lot more men than actually say it out loud feel a bit pushed out when your pregnant and when the baby comes as everything is about mum and baby. ( quite rightly so) maybe it's a positive thing he has spoken to you about it. As then you can talk things through. Ask him if he wants to be more involved. It's a massive change for mum
And dad.

Well he is second best, that’s just how it is once you are a parent. The fact that he doesn’t see that makes him a poor father. You are right not to live with him and frankly I wouldn’t bother being in a relationship with him at all.

How often is he round? Does he come and do bath time or take him out alone?

Sadly It can be really hard to adapt and he will have to understand he is now not your main prority. He is not second best (that's quite a childish description).

As PP have mentioned, could /does he come around to get involved in bath time, story time or bed time routine this might help him feel more included ? What is his involvement with the baby at the moment, if he's working, when does he get time with you both or baby ?

Definitely a good decision not moving in together while the relationship is finding its feet with the new dynamic, (congrats on the baby BTW)

Would he rather you neglect your baby to spend more time with him?

I really hope you haven't put him on the birth certificate and given the baby his surname. Keep him away from your child.

Thierry I appreciate if these posts annoy u, I was only looking for other opinions

My baby's safety is paramount always will be

Sijjy, Tulips, Tigger

Yeah good involvement with dd. He works full time but we are at his when he gets home and all weekend. Feeds dd dinner then we come home for bed and bath. I've suggested bathing her at his when the warmer weather comes in, then I don't need to bring her out to come home in the cold

He is not a danger as a few have assumed here. Immature yes, a danger no.

As tigger has said it's hard to adjust and we're working on it. It's hard to make time for one and other and he has just recently changed to more sociable shifts.

Is this just another way of complaining about not having enough sex when there is a young baby?

What does he specifically want you to do that would make him feel like he is number one (urgh)? Is he doing the same for you?

Her we have sex more often now, as I thought this was maybe this issue too but he didn't want to say it.

I said to him too, that he doesn't necessarily make me feel more than just a mum at times. I've said to him our relationship now will take work and won't be as easy as before we had a baby we will need to make time for us. We both agreed to try in the recent discussion we had, so I'll see what effort is made