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Expectations of 6 year old

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Imstickingwiththisone · 13/01/2019 18:08

My 6yo wears me out. She is very sensitive and easily upset. Not in a tantrum way but genuinely hurt feelings over minor things. Ive tried everyway possible to deal with but find it very frustrating and now that she is 6 I frequently revert to it being an out of proportion reaction, that life isn't fair and we need to toughen up. This might sound harsh but no response from me helps and I genuinely think she needs to toughen up. Her moods bring the whole house down and the 2yo will start crying after a while and the noise is just too much, all starting from something tiny.

We had guests today which we were all looking forward to. I found myself constantly having to find things for 6yo to do as she was bored, talk her down from sulks when I've had to say no to a succession of inappropriate games (she doesn't want to do the more suitable games I suggest), ask her to quieten down when she's shrieking when happy with a game and then when it's time for guests to go we have lots of ridiculous wailing and tears. Barely got to speak to guests, 6yo is still disappointed whatever and actually tired from running round and attempting damage limitation on the sulk front. The 2yo was a delight with guests on the other hand. Oh and then afterwards it's 'what now?' like that wasn't enough 😣

Do I have a high maintenance 6yo or are my expectations too high? I'm knackered by the constant battles and yet she's not badly behaved just oversensitive, attention seeking and a crybaby.

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minipie · 13/01/2019 19:15

Funny we had guests this weekend and my DD age 6 was exactly like this! After they left she did a quiet activity and then watched a movie and was the sweetest most helpful girl afterwards. I think she finds that kind of social setting exhausting as playdates are a bit hit and miss too.

my suggestions - downtime before and after any social events like guests round, and structure any social time as much as possible, eg now we’re all going out for a walk or set up a specific board game for them to play.

minipie · 13/01/2019 19:16

Oh and my 6 yo is definitely high maintenance. So it is reassuring to hear there are others like her out there...

Imstickingwiththisone · 13/01/2019 19:50

It's hard as everything I suggest is deemed boring. She looks forward to social things far too much and then is disappointed hence why my ideas are too tame for her. It's exhausting. Play dates are embarrassing as she always wants to do the opposite to the other child so then I have to play with them as they're in a strange house etc and if I tell her to compromise we get tears!

I pep talk before and try to be firm afterwards but nothing changes.

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