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My son is left out of everything!!!

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JKCR2017 · 13/01/2019 12:48

I have Ds (7.5) with my ex, we split when j was pregnant as he made my living a living hell, my ex has always has contact but literally a few hours a week (actually only an hour and a half today because he was ‘too busy’). If he has him overnight It’s 7pm on a Friday (sleep by 8) and back at 11am next day.

Anyway, over NYE his family/close friends had their usual get together with all the families children - DS not included. DS actually went in previous years

My ex has a baby with his current girlfriend (I say current as I don’t think it will last as long term as she will realise how useless he is). They go round as a family to his mothers for dinner once a week - DS has never been invited. My ex only lives 5 miles away as well!!

He’s always been a useless t**t and it’s always been about buying him expensive gifts, rather than actually spending time with him and I’m really bloody sick of it.

Last week DS was meant to stay at their new house overnight (they’ve only just moved in together) but she doesn’t want DS there so overnight visits will be stopped I think. 🤔I admit DS can be a bit hyper at times. He has high functioning autism but he’s also the sweetest, most affectionate boy you could meet and also loves his baby brother (about 6 months).

He keeps telling DS they are going out to specific places but forgets what he said. DS doesn’t cope with this very well. As he’s expecting to do the one thing his dad says they will do, but my ex plans another.

I wish he wouldn’t see him at all!! It would save the upset from DS.

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JKCR2017 · 13/01/2019 12:59

Also to add, my sons nanna thinks more of her partners grandchildren (even his two step grandchildren) and my ex’s new baby then her first born bio grandson. It’s great she’s so lovely her step grandchildren but why not her own?! 😡 I’ve never made it difficult for them to see him but they don’t give a crap!!

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Fabaunt · 13/01/2019 13:00

Did you post this already

Littleraindrop15 · 13/01/2019 13:04

Why don't you speak to the dad and ask if he wants to reduce contact seen as him and his family single your son out and upset him?

He might just turn around and say yes..

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cheercaptain · 13/01/2019 13:24

Sorry your son is not treated like the other grandchildren. Where I have seen this happen, its been due to issues and/or non-issues between the grandparents and the parents - their own child and/or their child's partner. Not that it is right but the bigger issue I think is their own child who is the parent is not being a good parent. He has a child with you and he owes it to that child to be his father, whether or not you both get along with each other. Talk to him, make him understand how his actions and inactions are affecting your son and find a way for both of you to be the parents that your son needs.

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