Is this odd behaviour or am I over-reacting?

[Welshmum]

My dd (2 and a bit) has been going to a lovely childminder since she was 6 months. For the last year there's been another little girl there with her (6 months younger) They've got on really well, play well together and I've also become very fond of this little one - we talk about her at home, give her little presents and she's always included in our prayers at bedtime. On Monday the childminder got a call from the mum saying her daughter was going to nursery. No notice, no goodbyes, no nothing. I'm upset about this, my dd will miss her and so will I and it seems like an odd way to behave. Is this how it is out there really? Am I a sentimental old fool? Don't know what to do now but would like the chance to say goodbye.

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That happened to us a couple of times when my daughter went to a childminder. You imagine that the other kids will be there as long as yours is.

Did you know the other parents? I think in my case my daughter and I knew the other child so well that it never occurred to me that I didn't really know the parents and what their plans were for their child (and that those plans perhaps didn't involve my daughter!).

I guess you could get their address from the childminder and tell them how much your daughter misses their daughter. Maybe suggest a playdate?

Very odd, I think. How horrid for all of you.

I'd imagine their DD would e a little upset at the abruptness of her departure too. Odd and a bit insensitive I think.

Galaxy's right that there might be more to it than it seems.

At one point I stopped sending my daughter to a childminder because we had a dispute with her. To the other child's parents, it may very well have seemed abrupt. They wouldn't have known anything about the dispute.

The childminder told the others that my dd had stopped going there because she started going to nursery, but understandably didn't say anything about our disagreement.

Thanks for your thoughts. I don't think there's a dispute as I think our childminder would hint at it if there was. Just a different way of behaving I guess. I'm just upset on my dd's behalf as I know how fond she is of this little girl. I think I'll take up your suggestion of a card Galaxy and see how it goes.

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