Kissing in public

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Had an awkward experience this evening

Went out for dinner and my 4 year old son just kept wanting to kiss me, my husband hated it and kept telling him to stop, told me to tell him to stop etc

He has recently become very affectionate and kisses me a lot and also does it mid telling off which occasionally I kiss him back but say it doesn't make it better he's still in trouble etc

I will have a chat to him about when is ok, time and place etc but I also don't want him to think he's been naughty as my husband did get quite angry over it

Anyone have any advice?

It's quite normal for a four year old to be affectionate to parent, a shame your boyfriend doesn't understand it. He's four, for goodness sakes! Mine used to say out loud how much he loved me and his dad and even made up a song about it (in public, guess who was embarrassed then :-) ).

It won't last forever. Tell your husband it's normal and he should not be so coy with such a young child.

He's fortunate, I know parents who would love a bit of affection from their child and don't get it.

He won't be doing it when he's ten, he's only four & won't be the only kid of his age uninhibitedly showing affection.

Later on he will learn that PDA are not the thing to do.

Cherish these times1

Is there really a problem with your 4 year old kissing you when he wants? Is there really 'a time and a place' for such a small child?

Is your husband jealous?

You will miss this when they are a teen any yelling how much they hate you because you took away there phone. Enjoy it now, kissing is a way of bonding in nature and is often the response to a telling off. You child just wants to reaffirm the love you have. You partner needs to understand this

DH is being a dick.

My 4 yr old goes through phases like this. I definitely don't complain or discourage. Don't care where we are. It'll will be long enough that he won't want to kiss me in public or private!

Jo

Ok makes me feel better people think my DH is being unreasonable. I love he wants to show me affection and I certainly don't want to 'ban' it

I guess in my head I have that picture of Victoria beckham and harper coupled with DH getting funny with it so I feel i shouldn't allow it

Thanks everyone!

My 3.5 year old loves giving myself and Oh kisses. She also gives kisses when she’s been told off to try and get away with it 🤣

Completely normal at that age I think.

Not sure what your husbands problem is? We all have different opnions on kissing our children but honestly I cannot see a problem 🤷‍♀️

In a few years your child probably won’t want to publicly kiss you...

DS is 13 and still happy to give us kisses in public.