Breastfeeding

[Theocdmummy]

When I had my first child, I bf exclusively for about 3 weeks before introducing bottles of formula and pumped breast milk. Over time my supply lessened and we were on formula full time by 6 months. Baby was happy and healthy so that was all I could have asked for. I am now pregnant again and in conversation I mentioned how much I wanted to try BF again and that I’d like to get to 6 months exclusively doing so. My Partner said I was silly and bottles were so much easier, it meant he could be involved too and it would mean baby could be left with a grandparent. Now, I know I’m a while off it being an issue but I feel really unsupported especially because of the issues I had last time I was hoping my oh would be onboard with helping me to reach my 6 month goal. Am I unreasonable to be upset by his comments? Side note - I am not looking for breast is best, I know it is but I have no offence to bottle feeding either. It’s all personal preference imo..

His motivation seems to be how easy it will be to palm off his newborn not what's best at all.
Imo make your own decision on this one.

My Partner said I was silly and bottles were so much easier, it meant he could be involved too and it would mean baby could be left with a grandparent
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Bottles are not easier
He can get involved with plenty
Why have a baby if your first thought is to leave them with GP?

Whatever decision should be yours OP

Bottles are definitely not easier. You might need to spell it out to him that this is important to you as well as the best thing for your baby and you need his support, he can do lots of other things to be involved- nappies, baths, cuddles (while you nap!), wear baby in a sling... the ‘so dad can be involved’ is such a daft argument for bottle feeding!

I just wouldn’t talk to him about it tbh. He won’t “get” it. Do what suits you and the baby.

No its not unreasonable at all to feel hurt, he should support you no matter what your decision.

Thanks for the replies. I’m not going to mention it again until closer to the time, but will make a point to go to the BF classes this time. Isn’t it silly how feeding a baby can cause such a drama, it really doesn’t matter as long as babe is fed and healthy!

I'm feeding my 6mo, yes I'm the only one that can feed her and I can't leave her for more then 3h but tbh I've only left her for 1h max and it really doesn't bother me. My husband has been involved plenty in oher ways to. You can do it!

Yeah I don’t think I’ll be in any kind of rush to leave baby. It’s such a short amount of time. With my first we left her over night by 4 months but that was for a pre booked night away that we’d organised before getting pregnant. I don’t want to do it this time as it definitely felt too early!

You can express some milk into bottles if you want to leave baby with other carers too, it's not that hard for dad to be involved.