Talking of comfort objects - any other children here who don't have any? And if so, why do you think that is?

[emkana]

My dd's are six and three. While they may favour one toy over the other sometimes, they both don't have one particular comfort object. In a way I'm relieved about that, because they can't lose it then.

Ds is now one, and doesn't have one either.

My only theory about it is that it might be to do with co-sleeping? But I could be wrong.

I have two dd's and didnt co-sleep with either of them. Neither have had a dummy, dd1 has no comfort toy but dd2 has, it wasnt bought specifically as a comfort thing, she just decided to latch on to it. However, it never goes out of the house, so we can only lose it at home. She always takes it to bed and when she is feeling poorly/tired etc she likes to cuddle it.

I have treated them both the same, so just put it down to character traits.

Expats post, per word. Never co-slept. Ds has Mr Dog. Never leaves the house - does it matter if comforter is out in public, or just used at bedtimes ?

Expat, I have explained to ds that expats dd has a Dog. He says - " I nned to go to her house".

Although I didn't co-sleep, I can appreciate that logic that it negates the need for a comforter. But from the posts so far, this does not seem to stand up, no ?

We never did co sleeping and DS 4.8 has never had any comforter, we believe this is down to confidence and the knowledge that our ds is seen more as equal in the house and everything is and has been explained and shared with him. We have always tried to empower him as much as possible. He never had dummy either, didn't even consider buying one.

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Interesting theory. I have co slept with all my four and none of them has a comfort object. Mind you I've never had one and I didn't co sleep with my mum.

I often wondered why some kids do and some don't. I wondered if it was led by the parents or do the children do it themselves?

my ds doesn't have a comforter - we didn't co-sleep but he was breastfed till he was 2. i always thought that extended breastfeedding might negate the need for a comforter as your boob is their comfort!!

DS1 - didn't co-sleep and mostly formula fed - doesn't have comforter.

DS2 - did co-sleep and breastfed for over a year - carries his blanket around with him a lot and always needs it to go to sleep and when he's tired or upset.

any pattern or is it just chance?