Baby group cliques

[AliceCherry]

So, here it is... I take my 8-month-old to baby groups on a weekly basis. I try to socialise with the other mums. My god, I try. But my conversation starters are either dismissed or ignored entirely. Yesterday I asked another mum how her Christmas was and she literally said "fine" and walked away. During the free playtime it's literally just me and my baby alone, exploring the play areas... The other mums sit around and chat together, but whenever I try to join in I'm shunned.

A lot of the mums know each other from elsewhere so it's a very cliquey atmosphere, and I knew it would be somewhat, but I didn't realise it would be this bad.

I've tried on several occasions to befriend other mums who aren't part of the clique, but they never seem to stay at the groups for more than a couple of weeks. So, for the most part it's just me and my baby, and the class instructor who I get on with really well.

So, has anyone else been here?
I'm not shy per say. I'm an introvert, but I can play the extrovert when needed.

Side note: my son adores the sessions, so I'll keep on attending regardless!

Switch groups. You haven’t found your people yet am sure you will x

Yep.
I have tried so many groups and I still haven't found my people
I never had issues making friends before...
I started connecting with some mums but then they dropped me quite quickly.
I can tell when I show up they are uncomfortable because they know they pretty much ghosted me and I feel bad that my DC has no play dates.
I will keep trying for him really, but in my area they are like that.

Yep. Never found my people. Part of the problem ime was a lot of them weren't the mums they were nannies / childminders who were there to speak to each other and mostly ignore the kids

Babyshsrka I find the opposite. I'm a childminder and I take my mindees to to playgroups a week. As soon as the mums there found out I was a childminder they ignored me. I tried to make friends with them but I got the feeling they see me as different from them (even though I'm a mum too). It's not nice feeling like you don't belong to a group, when really it shouldn't matter.

I've given up trying now, and just play with my mindees the whole session, they get loads out of it and so do I. It's the mums who largely sit on their phones or chat, ignoring their kids.