22 month old ds prefers everyone else to me? :(

[AmyLou777]

My 22 month old DS doesnt seem to care much for me or show me any affection at all, yet he LOVES his daddy and basically all other relatives but me. My boyfriends sister is godmother and we have to share a house at their family home while we save for ours, she works alot so she plays with DS around 15 minutes a day but his face lights up when she comes in and he SCREAMS when she leaves and calls after her all day, same with his daddy. Im in college part time so hes in creshe in mornings and im home with him from 1 everyday and he never ever shows me the same affection he shows the other two, even if i go away for a day and come back he doesnt seem any bit bothered when he sees me again. He never calls me mama or anything but calls daddy "daddy" and his godmother by name almost.. its really upsetting, especially when one of them hands him to me and he just screams to go back to them ☹ hes currently walking around saying "daaaaddddy" and crying for him, and i just cant help but wish he done this for me too or even showed me any affection

Unless others call you 'mummy' he will not. No doubt you call others, 'daddy' and so on.

He does love you. You are his only DM, no-one can replace you.

He's clearly very confident in your love for him.

I have not experienced this with any of mine, and have not heard anyone else say this,but you are the constant in his life, and yes, he absolutely will miss you if you go, providing there are no attachment issues.

Do you bond over activities together? - I mean like taking him swimming, or to play centres, baby massage, etc?

Thanks for the reply Smotheroffive, yes I take him for walks everyday and we always draw and colour, we play with the dog and go outside and play all the time, and then i just bring him to the park sometimes. Never been any attachment issues or anything, i suffered PPD for a year after I had him and sometimes I think that may have impacted his view on me as I wasnt as happy as the others and maybe he picked up on that? :(

I wouldn't say so.

DC don't care in the slightest for others feelings!! Only their own! What they want!

Have yourself some nights out and let others take the reins for a bit. Grab yourself a break!

I have twins who are nearly 3. Toddlers are gits! Take no notice - you're doing a great job. As has already been said, it shows he's confident in his attachment to you.

I also have an older son who was never that interested in snuggling up to me for cuddles at age 2. I'd had PND for the whole of his first year and was worried he'd somehow picked up on it despite me always being very smiley and expressive and demonstrative with him.

Now every morning I wake to him (age 5) having appeared in our room like out of a trapdoor, standing at my side of the bed gently stroking my face and saying 'I love you so so much Mummy'.

It's very creepy unnerving sweet, and I do laugh at how I used to think he didn't care much about me.

It's just a phase, and you will look back on this and laugh too. Hang in there. 🙂💐

Mummies are very boring remember!

The ones who are with them the most get all the rubbish bits, but are also the closest.

A very mighty double-edged sword!

Definitely toddlers are gits. Children’s behaviour is always the worst with those they feel most secure with. He knows that he has your unconditional love so he does not need to do anything for it because you will always be there no matter what he does or does not do.