Hi everyone, this is my first post and joined to really get some advice on the following. To give a quick background I have a 10 year old boy, and my ex and I have 50/50 between us no courts involved. He's usually a good dad. He's now married with a 3 year old and 1 year old also.
It came out last night that my 10yo boy is upset because my ex makes him call the step mum "mum" and says he has to lie to his 3yo brother about where he goes when he comes back to me. His dad makes him say he's going to see friends.
It may seem small but the reality is that for half his time he has to pretend that he doesn't have a mum that isn't his step mum. I'm really concerned that this is damaging to my boy and damaging to his relationship with me also.
When he comes here were very open and ask how his dad, stepmother and brothers are but now it seems that when he goes to his dads house he's ultimately forced to shut us away from his life and not live his reality.
I spoke to his dad and he defended the decision that the 3 year old isn't old enough to understand that the stepmother isn't my boys mum so they are for now pretending I don't exist.
Advice on what else to do about this please?!