A little long but I would really appreCiate someone opinion. So DH and I are staying at his moms house for a few months while our house is getting remodelled. His mom and have very different personalities. She's very outgoing, loud, friendly while I'm more mellow, also friendly but no so loud. I'm a nursery teacher, so I'm used to speaking somewhat in a quite tone and I'm very respectful and careful how I speak to my son and what I teach him. Anyway. I've had some differences regarding what she's taught my son in the past. He's 18 months so he still falls here and there. When this happens, if it's a minor fall I simply ask him if he's ok. He usually says yeah and gets up. Well what she began showing him was when he would fall she would make a huge deal and say "oh no!!! What happened!!" And run over to him. And say "did that stupid floor make you fall. Go punch that floor and say 'you stupid floor, making me fall. Go kick that floor." Now I'd seen her do this and I really don't want my son hitting furniture or being taught that when he gets upset or hurt he needs to go hit whatever upset him. However I didn't say anything the first few times because I just felt awkward saying anything. UNTIL a few days ago he didn't want to have a bath and I didn't have time to wait around so I picked him up and he went "ah ah!!" And hit me! I was so angry because he did it in the exact same tone my mother in law has taught him. I didn't say anything. Until a few days ago he tripped and fell (very minor.) she ran to him, made a huge scene and told him to go punch his tricycle that made him fall. So he did. That's when I very calmly said (as I didn't want to cause any tension) "awe Mary, don't show him to hit please because he's starting to hit me when he gets upset." Which is true. She said "I'm only trying to make him feel better." Which I completely understand and I know she means no harm. But today her and I got into a full on argument. We bought him a little brush for Xmas and as I was in the kitchen she called him over and said to him "go hit your dad with this brush." I know she was playing I guess but it infuriated me because I'm so done with the teaching my son to hit!! So my son went up to his dad and hit him with the brush he laughed. And I went up to my son took the brush from him and said "do not do that. It is never ok to hit, even if you're playing." My dh flipped and said "don't yell at him, he's just playing." And I was like "he's playing now but later when he's angry he's hitting me and the last thing I want is him using this brush to then hit his cousins(which are always at the house." She flipped and started yelling at me saying "I was only playing with him. Either way it's good that he learns to hit now because he's going to know how to hit when he enters nursery and he need to hit kids back." Omg I was so mad. I said "no he doesn't." He's 18 months! Wtf?? Why does an 18 month old need to know how to hit. So angry!! Am I wrong?? Am I over reacting?? What would you have done. Be completely honest if you think I'm at fault.