My son is constantly asking me questions..is this normal?

[Amybird90]

My 5 year old son is asking me to constantly repeat myself or if everything is ok. He is also doing it when he goes to see his dad and grandma. I am not overly worried as I think this is a phase but I’m getting my mum telling me constantly I need to get him accessed etc to see if there is a mental health issue. Has anyone else ever experienced this? TIA 😊

Totally normal

He might possibly need an accumulation of wax cleared out of his ears, but it sounds perfectly normal to me.

It is normal, unless the questions themselves are odd...

If he's asking you to repeat yourself do you think he's a bit deaf? It would do no harm at all to get his hearing tested. I can't see why that would be a mental health issue unless it's accompanied by other behaviours you've decided not to mention, or unless the questions suggest he's extremely anxious that everything is in fact not OK...

My DS asks me the same questions repeatedly. Sometimes it's because he finds the answer funny or sometimes because he just likes to talk! If you are worried, listen to your instinct though. You know what's normal for him. Xx

Thank you so much for your replies. No he doesn’t have any other behaviours he did not long ago have a phase of washing his hands a lot but that has stopped. It’s just with him asking me if everything is alright a lot I was wondering if there was slight anxiety there but I feel it may be something that will resolve itself over time. I think it’s a lot to put a 5 year old through assessments and stuff but I might be being soft?

Do you ask him if he’s ok regularly?

If its purely and simply that he asks you if you are OK a lot its probably that he's copying someone else who does that, or looking for a way to initiate conversation / attention, or something is worrying him (have you been ill or has something been worrying you which he may be aware of?) It certainly doesn't sound as if he needs any kind of assessments if that's really all it is. Sounds more environmental.

To be honest he’s been having some problems at school he’s in year 1 now and doesn’t seem to have many friends. It’s heartbreaking really. I do and I also say to him do you need to ask if everything’s ok? To which he smiles and says no. He is a very social boy but I often see him wandering the play ground alone 🥺

The friendship issue could be something or nothing. I guess you need to put together a list of all the things that worry you and then think about whether it adds up to anything. Asking questions is normal so a funny thing to focus on.

Make an appointment for a chat with his class teacher to compare notes.

That’s a good idea thank you. I thought about asking to meet with her next week and seeing if she notices anything whilst he is at school v