HELP!!! Teenage sleepover

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Hey my 16 year old son is currently at sixth form and has been with his girlfriend for just over a year now. He wants to have a sleepover but expects them to sleep in the same bed. He's 4 months away from being 17 and his girlfriend is 3 months away from being 17. We get on with his girlfriend very well as she is round 4/5 days a week. He says all his friends sleep in the same bed as their girlfriends. When we disagree he asked why we do not trust him and that we are old fashioned. We tell him our parents would never allow us to do this but he says times have changed. He genuinely does not understand why we do not want this happening and says he needs a chance to show he will be trusted what do we do. He has had sleepovers with his previous girlfriend when he was 14/15 but they stayed in different beds.

Your house your rules. I’m still not allowed sleep in the same bed in my parents house as my boyfriend and we live together. It’s all well and good until she ends up pregnant and her parents are asking why you were cool with them sharing a bed? I’d compromise. She could stay over but separate rooms from 12 o clock.

I can see both points of view but I'd rather they did it under my roof where it is safe and only sleep over on weekend nights. What does the gf parents think of this? Is your son allowed to stay over at hers?

Well technically they are adults so the law says it's fine, however your house for rules. I would never have been allowed to have a boyfriend sleep over never mind in the same bed. Still got pregnant at 17 so if they are going to have sex they will and they probably have already, infact they definitely have.

Why don’t you want them to sleep over? What’s your reason?

Personally I allowed DS (16) and his GF (17) to stay. My view is it’s his home too. They were going to have sex regardless, so they need to have their private space and be safe.

They're having sex anyway. If you don't let them sleep in the same bed at sleepovers they'll just get more creative. At their age I wouldn't think too much on it as they're both of legal age and consenting.

They are both over 16, old enough to get married in Scotland. I'd be brazen and ask what contraception they are using, and what backup contraception. And I'd let them share as long as the walls weren't made of cardboard so I wouldn't hear anything. As PP said, they will be at it already, might as well be comfortable and warm.

If you are really against it, when would you be happy for them to share? When they are 21? 25? Married? Or would you never feel comfortable?