Stress, stress and more stress

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I love all my DC but I'm losing the will to live here. DC are age 6, 5 and 1 and the other two constantly argue, scream, shout at each other. They don't listen to a word I say and I end up shouting all the time and then I feel bad!! My house is a mess and the baby is clingy!! Please tell me I'm not on my own here. I feel like such a bad mum for feeling like this!!

Of course you're not on your own, my dear. Sounds like my house too except mine are nearly 7, nearly 5 and a clingy 2 year old plus I'm due to have number 4 in about a week. 'Not coping very well' sums it up for me. School started back today, if I wasn't so pregnant I'd have been turning cartwheels...

They do say it gets easier...

Don't have any words of wisdom but just wanted to say you are not alone. By boys are 5 & 4 and my daughter is 2. The boys arguing and fighting is literally driving me to the brink. Counting down the days until back to school. Also, despite spending what feels like all day picking up after the kids, the house still looks like a bomb has gone off. Plus, despite my 'feeding the kids better this year' intention. We just had McDonald's for tea

I feel your pain. I've only got 2 but they fight ALL DAY LONG. I'm normally losing my rag by breakfast, struggle to keep them entertained & im fed up of living in a shithole.

Genuinely curious why people keep having kids when they can’t cope with the ones they have already? It seems a very chaotic way to live your life

Because the majority of the time, having 3 kids is brilliant, but like quite a few things in life, at times it's particularly hard work and it's good to be able to vent to others in the same boat. Totally not the same as not coping, although sometimes that happens to the best of us, in relation to many things I am sure, not just children. People/parents who claim to have their shit together all the time are most probably lying. At the moment I am a SAHM but come from the background of a high pressured stressful career. If I was having a run of a bad few days and vented, I doubt anyone would ask why I did that job if I couldn't cope, they would see it as a bad few days/stage. I think maybe you should consider it in that context. Just to add on a side note, I believe everything is relative and have a friend who would say similar (minor the sibling arguing) and she has 1 child. I am crap at philosophy but I guess that would then begs the question why do people have kids at all?!

Beautifully put, KSJG85

She literally states she can’t cope that’s not me putting words in her mouth. Then goes on to say she’s oewhnany again

Actually, nowhere in her post does she state she can't cope. That's your interpretation. I interpret it differently. Possible best not to present your opinion as fact.

'Not coping very well' sums it up for me. School started back today, if I wasn't so pregnant I'd have been turning cartwheels...

It was me that said that, not the OP, dear. It was said to back up my credentials for providing support/sympathy and to show her that she's not alone or wrong for feeling how she's feeling. Which, as I understood it, was the point of this thread. I don't think that's really so difficult to grasp. Unless being deliberately obtuse is how you get your thrills, of course!

But that's not OP?!
Specifically in relation to that, I haven't coped at times either. But I didn't cope 100% of the time with 1 either. Everyone has periods in which they find stuff hard,don't they? I get that having 3 kids wouldn't be your choice but unless you have never struggled with anything in your life, surely either not commenting or posting something to help a fellow mum who is going through a tough patch would be the way to go? Obviously asking your initial question about why we have made these choices is great because you are wanting an insight but being negative because you don't agree isn't particularly helpful is it. Even if I did think, shit, she's right (which I don't) it's not exactly like I can send one back is it?!