I have DS who is 7.5 with my ex. He’s always been in his life but it’s a few hours a week usually. Once a month he has him over night (7pm on a Friday until 11am Saturday). Despite this DS really loves his dad...
For the past few years DS’s dads family have had a little together on NYE with close friends and relatives and loads of their kids and DS always really enjoyed it which is great. He has asd and struggles with some things but because it was in a familiar house with all familiar people he did enjoy it.
DS questioned about it this year but because I hadn’t heard anything I assumed it wasn’t happening this year and thought nothing of it.
Well it did happen. My son seen some photos on Facebook (yes he helps himself the my phone and looks on his relatives Facebook as I’m friends with some of them). This is partly my fault for letting him use my phone but I hadn’t seen the photos beforehand so wasnt aware this would happen.
My sons brother was there and everything...
DS doesn’t seem overly upset but I’m worried how he feels inside as he struggles to show his feelings!!
I hadnt mentioned it to my ex as I didn’t want to cause an argument but funnily enough he rang about something earlier. He asked what he we had got up to NYE (nothing). I think he knew we might of seen the photos as he was saying well we only went for a bit etc.. I think he has realised what he’s done.
He only lives 5-10 minutes away..
And my sons Nana prefers her step grandchildren over my son. She has two bio grandchildren (DS and DS’s brother) but her partner has 3 bio grandchildren and 3 step grandchildren himself and she thinks more of them over DS!
Usually I let it go but the ex has let DS down two other times recently too. Told him he was taking him somewhere fun and never bothered them told him he would take him out for tea after Christmas but hasn’t!!
Just need to rant. Sometimes I wish he didn’t bother with him at all, I would never stop him from seeing him but t would be bloody easier sometimes!!