Sons Dads partner is suicidal

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Me and my sons dad do not get on. It’s toxic, we have little to no contact so it was agreed he would see his son every two weeks. (His new work schedule only allows that) his choice!
Since then, he doesn’t stick to this arrangement, barely ever sees him and when my son isn’t there, he doesn’t speak to him at all.
Amongst all this, I’ve been told that his partner has threatened suicide publicly on her Facebook. Disappeared and then been admitted to hospital. Then shown her cut wrists on snapchat app. All very public from her social media, pics and statuses etc.
I said my son was no longer allowed to stay at their house overnight and whenever he wants to see his son he could gladly having during the day one or both days of his weekend. (We also drive out son to and from the drop off as he lives so far away) they have kicked off saying they have rights, which they do I’m am not denying that. But for my sons best interest I do not want him around a girl in such a state of mind and with public issues. What leg do I stand on? I have had to block them all and their family as they continue to post hate messages and try messaging me off their friends accounts . I keep all screen shots of it and have he log of text messages but it feels like I’m fighting against the impossible.

Any advice please

I don't really understand... do you feel your son is in danger? How old is he? Is the partner getting MH help?

No, she isn’t getting help.
I feel my son isn’t safe around someone in such a state of mind that’s why I stopped him staying over and said he could see him during the day nearer to me. Activities and days out are easier up the road. Rather than him being at the house.

Sorry to add my son is 7. She is only 20something, relatively younger than myself

You’re right OP. I wouldn’t have my child in that situation where she’s clearly looking for attention publically posting her drama and actions online. I would not let my child be around that atmosphere. Walking on eggshells or walking in on her self harming or attempting suicide is not a nice environment for your child. I would be inclined to go back to court to be honest

We have never even been to court, I wouldn’t know where to start to be honest.

It’s very frustrating!

I wpuld have done the same OP. If that's what's getting out online then god knows what's going on behind closed doors. I wpuld not be comfortable with my child being around someone publicly showing her self harm scars or announcing that she is contemplating suicide. I also wouldn't be happy with my child going with his father when he has no other contact over the fortnight he's not with him.

Take him to family court, what country are you in? Your child has a right to a relationship with his dad and that side of his family, it’s not they have a right to a relationship with the child. The child always comes first. You’re doing good mama. People with experiences of going to court in your jurisdiction can guide you on the process but that’s where I’d be at the moment. The judge will award maintenance and visitation, so outline all your concerns as to why you’re not comfortable with your son overnight, and keep all the threatening and hassling messages.

I have contact with his grandparents on his side, as through him they wouldn’t see my son otherwise as he never bothers.

I’m in the UK. All information online is confusing me, so I’m looking for something more detailed.
I’ve got the number for child maintenance options, which I’ll be calling to sort that out.
But everything else is just a head pickle.

Thankyou

Tell him he can take you to court. He will probably get some contact but waiting for court etc might allow some time for his Dad's partner to get help. You can't judge someone from their social media. A formal legal process will hopefully be able to work out what's really going on and how/if contact should change.

No i can’t judge, but when she writes things about me on her platforms and has tried to commit suicide then I shall prevent my son from being around that.