Mother offered residency

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My DP's DS (just started seconday school) has made it clear to his Mum that he wants to live with us full time after being dumped with anyone for years and the Mother has agreed to a months trial.

We have everything he needs already as he is here way more than 50%.

We have also wanted this for years as the Mother isn't mentally stable to properly raise a child but she likes to be in control.

How do we make this so it's not a trial run, we want DS here permanently and we know deep down the Mother does too. She's not made for being a Mother but I don't think she's fully let go of my DP still, so it could just be a chance to pick at us and rip him away when she's ready.

Does anyone have advice on how to deal with this in the right way for DS? is offering trial residency showing she's giving up? Weirdly I can't find anything online for this sort of thing..

I don't know but it sounds like a good thing for your dss.

Good luck.

When he has moved in then make an application to court for a child arrangements order.

I would wait until he moves in properly before you do anything legally/claim child benefit to prevent her from changing her mind.

Once he moves in go to court for a child arrangement order to state that he’ll live with you

The Mother has changed her mind and now messing about with bringing DSS here for tonight.
She says the kid no longer wants to live here despite what he's saying. She made him pack his things last night too but he can't bring them now.

At 12 my ds decided to live ft with me and go nc with exh. Your dss will get much say in this. Is his dm suddenly aware her finances will plummet now maybe?

My DP gets tax credit and the Mother gets CB as she lied to keep it.

Are we allowed to record him saying he wants to live here? I already have as when he arrived today he was so upset with Mums lies and said he wants to live here as it's homely plus doesn't feel wanted by DM. But can my DP give the recording to solicitor?

How old Is he?

12

When my 14 yo moved ft (before the 12 yo) he wrote a letter to whom it may concern stating he lived with me etc. I also emailed my mp who was useful. Took less than a fortnight to have benefits allocated to me.
Keep a list of spends on dss and his outgoings that you pay for. Benefits may ask for receipts to show you support him financially.

Refuse to hand him back and get an emergency hearing, at 12 his views count and presumably their are countless details of when she's palmed him off, promised he could live with you etc?

You need legal advice.