AIBU to feel totally shit about everything?

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My 16 week old DS is on day 6 of his first cold caused by him being passed around like a fucking toy over Christmas he’s clearly feeling dreadful and I can’t bear to hear him wheezing and coughing and just being generally unwell.

I’ve now picked up his bloody cold (it’s fucking horrendous, I feel so sorry for the baby having it for so long) and I’ve had literally no sleep between feeling shit, listening to the baby feeling shit, and DH tossing and turning all night.

On top of it all, I’m back to work after mat leave on Wednesday, and I’m just not rested at all (not just because of last night - I’ve obviously had 4 months of broken nights), I don’t have enough BM pumped, and I feel so guilty for going back and just generally pissed off to be missing out.

I just feel like everything is teetering on a knife edge at the moment and all my spinning plates are about to drop. Any wise words oracles of MN?

No wise words of encouragement but just want you to know i feel the same! My now 17 week old daughter has had a cold since Christmas (exactly the same reason - she’s obviously a doll to be passed around like a toy and is there to be a prop for cute pictures...) and me and my husband now have it!! So general crappy moods all around. and I am also going back to work soon. :(

I feel crap too as I’ll be missing out on so much. But we can’t afford me to stay off as maternity pay doesn’t even cover the mortgage..To top it off grandparents will be looking after her three out of the five days (2 days nursery) and they just don’t listen to me (because they obviously know better and I know nothing) so I’m a bit terrified in all honesty!

But I think these feelings are normal though! I’m trying to think that once the cold / Sickness has passed and I’m back into the swing of things at work things will be better. :) the older baby gets the easier way these sort of things get. It’ll all sort out and fall back into place :)

Thanks CJ, hope you’re right! My DH is looking after him when I go back which on one hand is great and on the other less great as I obviously need to respect his parenting choices even if they are different to mine. If we had a nanny I could just tell her how it want things done

Our 18 week old recently had a nasty cold. Found the snufflebabe rub helped.

If I had a wheezing 16 month old I'd be making sure he'd been seen by a GP. Babies can only overcompensate with their breathing for so long before they go down hill quickly. If you haven't already I'd get baby looked at.

My 12 month old crawled round the lounge full of her self, with a wheezy cold...leas then 6 hours later she was in HDU with bronchiolitis

I agree about getting baby checked out to be on the safe side. Like plug my then 15 month old was fine and happy during the day, eating and playing, but had a temp at night and was wheezing. After 3 days I took her to be checked and she even played happily in the waiting room. 2 hours later she was on oxygen in A&E and turns out it was also bronchiolitis and an ear infection, not the cold I'd thought

Oh bugger, really? All the stuff on the NHS website says to treat it at home. Okay, will see if I can get him to the GP today.

The cold is unfortunate but tbh I get absolutely shitty just before I returned to work too. I was just so sad and anxious and the anticipation was quite stressful.

Once I’d started work again I felt miles better. I obviously missed DS loads but it was quite nice to use my brain and have an uninterrupted cup of tea now and again.

*felt shitty, not ‘get shitty’’!

GP says he’s fine, reckons he might be teething. Thanks fartniss, I know you’re right. IT WILL ALL BE FINE! At least this week is a short one.

It will be fine and you’ll be surprised by how fine it is best of luck!