What topics to discuss before trying for a baby?

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Just that really, DP and I are thinking about trying for a baby, I already have a DD from a previous relationship which was unplanned so didn’t really have that conversation with ex before having DD.
I see on here quite frequently posters being asked “did you not discuss this/that before deciding to have children together”.

Finances - during your maternity leave and afterwards.

Childcare - as you're not marrried, I'd advise against becoming a SAHM or going part time as you would be financially vulnerable. So you need childcare that works for two full-time workers.

Parenting methods - do you seem to be on the same page re schools etc

Division of household jobs

I think everyone's situation is different so hard to give specifics but,

How do you see each others roles once the baby is here ? (How would you divide the household chores, meal times, bedtimes, night time wake ups , morning get ups etc )

Do you both have the same parenting style ?

Would either of you like to get married before baby is here? If not would child take his name or yours ?

Do you or him want to be SAHP?

How much would childcare be in your area? Is it easily affordable ? Who would be pulled out of work if needed for child ? Who would do drop off, pick ups ?

How would your finances work?
Is it your house, do either of you have savings ?

There is probably loads more that I can't think of but so long as you're both on the same page and work as a team, supporting eachother

I think it is more about being with your partner long enough to know how you both react when you disagree about something.
There will be all sorts of things - from seemingly minor things to bigger, and potentially unexpected things - that crop up over the next 25years or so, you can't possibly predict them all, and it often won't occur to you that there might even be a different way of doing something from the way you would expect to, so it is definitely about knowing you can resolve disagreements in an adult manner before having dc together.